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AVOID
1. Screaming at the child.
2. Embarrassing the child.
3. Shaming the child.
4. Labeling the child.
5. Threatening the child.
6. Hitting the child.
7. Hurting the child in any way.
8. Indulging the child.
9. Reinforcing inappropriate behavior by giving in to his/her outbursts.
DO
1- Accept the child as a valuable human being.
2- Accentuate his/her strengths.
3- Acknowledge appropriate behavior.
4- Provide a safe, respectful environment with clear limits.
5- Follow through with meaningful consequences for aggressive acts.
6- Provide a predictable day with opportunities for the child to make choices.
7- Model kindness, fairness, firmness, and consistency.
8- Watch the child carefully noting the antecedents to hostile behavior.
9- Anticipate angry outbursts and arrange activities to reduce them.
10- Understand that anger is often a reaction to feeling misunderstood, unloved, hurt or afraid.
11- Assist the child in learning and using a vocabulary of feeling words.
12- Listen and mirror the feelings he/she expresses.
13- Facilitate communication between the child and others.
14- Teach the child that anger is a natural emotion that everyone has.
15- Help the child understand that it is okay to feel angry, but that it is not okay to hurt others.
16- Provide a safe place for the child to calm him/herself.
17- Teach the child ways to cope with angry impulses: stop and think, problem solve, sit alone, breathe deeply, tense body and relax, use play dough, count, draw, exercise, rest or read.
18- Help the child meet his/her psychological needs: to feel loved, accepted, secure, recognized, and a part of a group
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How many of us take and give sorrow without even knowing it? We may easily understand when we give sorrow, but do we realise we are also taking the sorrow by getting upset or disheartened or complaining about trivial matters. Do we understand that in any situation we have a choice as to the feelings we create and so sorrow is not forced onto us, it is something we choose to indulge in. Sorrow is anything that causes discomfort – it is a suffering on an emotional level; quite different from pain which is a physical state. What we call emotional pain is in fact us taking sorrow from the situation. It's not real; it's a creation of our own mind. For example, a patient could be in pain and bearing it with fortitude and yet not experiencing sorrow. Some people on a spiritual path have learnt the art of remaining in happiness even though they may be in physical pain. How is it possible you may ask! Pain is a message from the body that comes to tell you there is something you need to change. For example, eating too much chili food can cause ulcers; sitting too much may cause back pain; worrying too much can cause headaches etc! Thus a physical cause, results in a physical reaction. But on the other hand to take sorrow, and then to suffer emotionally is our choice; a choice we make with our mind and intellect.
Sorrow is the outcome of our interpretation of events. For example, we didn't pass the job interview and we got disheartened. Our loved one didn't call us (within 24hrs) and we think they don't love us anymore. We weren't invited to a meeting or a party and we sulk. Events are just events, they do not conspire against us, but sometimes we just put our own spin on them. Sometimes, life just happens that way. Maybe we had a great CV and they admired us, but we were just not the right person for that job (in which case would we really be happy in a job that was not a good fit for us!?). Perhaps our loved one was just pure busy and caught up, they had no intention to hurt us through their silence. Perhaps the others thought of our best interests and knew the meeting would be a waste of our time and therefore didn't invite us! We take a lot of sorrow from these situations when we take them personally. In fact we are projecting our needs into the situation or the person. We all want to be wanted, loved and well thought of at all times, and if there seems to be a threat against this cherished notion, sorrow and sadness kick in as our defense mechanism. This closes up our heart and once our heart is closed we can no longer flow with love, good wishes and blessings.
We may believe that we are punishing the other party and denying them of our love, kindness and inner beauty, but in actuality we are hurting ourselves more. It is the block in our heart that is causing us the grief, not them! In that moment, we do not act from our higher self, only the lower self, which is needy and greedy. Our higher self gives without wanting a return and our heart flows easily and constantly. When we give sorrow to others we are creating karma for ourselves. And intense karma of this kind never rewards us with happiness, only further sorrow.
There are many ways in which we give subtle sorrow. Here are a couple of examples. For example, I may have wealth and that is my good fortune but to flaunt it in front of a person who has nothing, that is intentionally creating sorrow. On the other side, if I envy someone because they have the latest gizmos (and remember… because of their good fortune) then that is my problem! Instead of taking sorrow from everything let me see what I do have and take happiness from that. Never judge a book by its cover. Also by looking at the defects and faults of others, I am giving sorrow; in that moment, I am not uplifting the other. In spiritual language, I am only 'kicking' the other person more. They have 'fallen' because of their shortcoming and yet I am making them weaker by focusing on their imperfections. I have to build such immunity to the sorrow that not only am I able to tolerate the sorrow, but turn it around to my favour. If I have the strength of virtues; contentment, self respect and self worth to name a few, then I have a higher threshold or immunity to sorrow and suffering in my life. I am then able to deflect the criticisms of others, rather than immediately having feelings of hurt, rejection or self-pity. Lastly I create more sorrow from the sorrow by exaggerating the situation and enlarging it with my waste thoughts. Learn to give others the benefit of the doubt. Remain positive as much as you can; there is always benefit behind everything, even if you cant see it just yet! It's Time… to stop giving and taking sorrow and to use spiritual wisdom to take the best from the situation. Sorrow is created as the result of my own thinking and so choose to have self-respect and a heart that is flowing. Don't take things too personally. See things more clearly, without the clouds of emotion, and you will be able to respond appropriately. Then you will see that a life of happiness is possible… always!
Often we project an image of ourselves that we want the world to see. And at the same time, we unconsciously project an image of who we really are. The result is a blurry image; two versions superimposed upon each other that just confuses people as they can't quite make out who we really are. If you would like your image to be seen clearly, be the same inside and out.
ok send wat u have.... let me cross check with my cousins... those who
live in few country of that list
>> *Assalam Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu,*
On 7/30/12, (Abdul Mannan) Lion - The prince <princeoflion@gmail.com> wrote:
> Fasting hours mentioned below is wrong for this year in most of the
> countries.
>
> On Sun, Jul 29, 2012 at 1:28 PM, thameem <thameem.m@gmail.com> wrote:
>
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>> *FASTING HOURS IN*
>> *
>> *
>> *>* Kuwait : 16 hours
>> *>* Saudi Arabia : 16 hours
>> *>* Morocco : 14 hours
>> * **>* China : 14 hours
>> * >** *Japan : 14:30 hours
>> * **>* Korea : 12 hours
>> *>* England : 16:30 hours
>> *>* France : 16 hours
>> *> *Denmark : 21 hours
>> * > *Iceland : 20:20 hours
>> * > *Netherlands : 18:30 hours
>> * >* Argentina : 9:30 hours
>> * >* Canada : 18 hours
>> * > *United States : 15 hours
>> *>* Mexico : 13 hours
>> *> *South Africa : 10:30 hours
>> * >* India : 14:30 hours
>>>> *>* Sumatra,
>> >>> World Report Hai Ke FAJAR KI AZAAN Sab Se Pehle Indonesia Me Se
>> Shuru Hoti Hai Aur Phir
>>
>> *>* Malaysia,
>> *>* Dhaka,
>> *> *SriLanka,
>> *>* India,
>> * >* Pakistan,
>> *>* Afghanistan,
>> *>* Muscat,
>> *>** *Saudia,
>> *>* kuwait,
>> *>* Dubai,
>> *>* Yemen,
>> *>* Iraq,
>> *> *Iran,
>> *>* Istanbul,
>> *>* Tarabils,
>> *>* Libya,
>> *> *America.
>>
>> * >>>> T*ak Lagatar 9 Hours Fajar ki AZAAN Hoti Huwe Wapas Indonesia Me
>> Pohunchti Hai>> >>>> Isi Tarah *5* Waqat ki AZAAN se Poori Zameen Par Ek Bhi Second
>>
>> >>> Jahan Zohar ki AZAAN ka Waqat Ho jata Hai..
>>
>> Aisa Nahi Jab AZAAN ki Awaaz Na Aati Ho..!
>>
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exelent one vani.--On Mon, Jul 30, 2012 at 3:32 PM, Vani Sankar <pathumai@gmail.com> wrote:
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When MOTHER TERESA received the Nobel Prize,She was asked," What can we do to Promote WORLD PEACE ?"Her Answer was simple, " GO HOME AND LOVE YOUR FAMILY."
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Dont" keep me in ur eyes, i may fall as tears.Keep me in ur heart, so that ur every "heart beat" may reminds u that there is "someone 4 u"...
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Mashallah aap to bahut khabil lekhte ho aur soonch bhi aji hajrat kiya
islam me birthday manana theek hai aap jaise khabil jo pahle soonchte
phir bolte hi aisa karinge to fir jo pahle bolte fir soonchte kiya
karinge aur kuch to sharam karo pahle aap apna mail id change karo
mannan sahab lion ek janwar aap to ache sharif insan lag rahe ho.
Allah hum sub ko hidayat de. aameen.
On 7/28/12, (Abdul Mannan) Lion - The prince <princeoflion@gmail.com> wrote:
> Janab Farooqui,
>
> Aqalmand aadmi bolnay say pahlay sochta hai phir bolta hai or bewaqoof
> pahlay bolta hai phir sochta hai.
>
> We members of HM celebrated his Birthday and wished him. Don't try to
> teach. We all knows what we are doing.
>
> On Thu, Jul 26, 2012 at 11:34 AM, mohammed farooqui <
> farooquimohammed14@gmail.com> wrote:
>
>> mohammed bhai ye koi umar hai birthday manane ki kuch to sharm karo
>> mashallah chahara noorani aur harkate ......
>>
>>
>> On Tue, Jul 17, 2012 at 9:02 AM, Pradeep Vaidya
>> <vaidyap1981@gmail.com>wrote:
>>
>>> Hi,
>>>
>>> Please disable my email address from your distribution list.
>>>
>>>
>>> Thanks,
>>> Pradeep
>>>
>>> On Tue, Jul 17, 2012 at 12:19 AM, Muhammad Ahmad
>>> <engrahmadkhan@gmail.com
>>> > wrote:
>>>
>>>> thanks my lil sis Krupa.
>>>> best regards,
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> http://www.linkedin.com/in/muhammadahmadkhan
>>>>
>>>> GROWING OLDER IS MANDATORY. GROWING UP IS OPTIONAL.
>>>> The least we can do as individuals is to motivate and inspire another
>>>> human being!
>>>> Because a candle loses nothing by lighting another!
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> On Mon, Jul 16, 2012 at 10:20 AM, krupa upadhyay
>>>> <krupa294@gmail.com>wrote:
>>>>
>>>>> Belated Birthday Wishes Ahmed Bro!
>>>>>
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Assalam Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu,FASTING HOURS IN> Kuwait : 16 hours> Saudi Arabia : 16 hours> Morocco : 14 hours> China : 14 hours> Japan : 14:30 hours> Korea : 12 hours> England : 16:30 hours> France : 16 hours> Denmark : 21 hours> Iceland : 20:20 hours> Netherlands : 18:30 hours> Argentina : 9:30 hours> Canada : 18 hours> United States : 15 hours> Mexico : 13 hours> South Africa : 10:30 hours> India : 14:30 hours>>> World Report Hai Ke FAJAR KI AZAAN Sab Se Pehle Indonesia Me Se Shuru Hoti Hai Aur Phir> Sumatra,> Malaysia,> Dhaka,> SriLanka,> India,> Pakistan,> Afghanistan,> Muscat,> Saudia,> kuwait,> Dubai,> Yemen,> Iraq,> Iran,> Istanbul,> Tarabils,> Libya,> America.>>>> Tak Lagatar 9 Hours Fajar ki AZAAN Hoti Huwe Wapas Indonesia Me Pohunchti Hai>>> Jahan Zohar ki AZAAN ka Waqat Ho jata Hai..>>>> Isi Tarah 5 Waqat ki AZAAN se Poori Zameen Par Ek Bhi Second Aisa Nahi Jab AZAAN ki Awaaz Na Aati Ho..!__._,_.___
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