Hyderabad Blues: November 2013

Saturday, 30 November 2013

[HM:256979] Gossips and Rumors

Rumor, by definition, is a currently circulating story about a doubtful situation, future event or a past incident. If the rumor is based on true fact then usually it gets clarified very soon since the stake holders clear the doubts of public as soon as possible to get their necks cleaned; though sometimes they tend to hide as their respect is on stake due to the negative post effects of the story whether true or false.

Generally speaking, rumors are either completely based on false grounds or become fragile because a lot of impurities get mixed when such stories are propagated in the society. In fact the story becomes more impure when more and more people discuss because it is human nature to add some 'spice' in the original story to make it more interesting and worth listening.

As long as a specific rumor is not directly impacting a person's private life, he/she tends to enjoy it but sometimes some rumors have considerable mental or social consequences. For example, in our company we recently had a rumor that the senior management is going to undergo a major hierarchy changes due to which a high percentage of employees will lose their job due to cost cutting strategy of the new management. A lot of employees started gossiping in office, with their spouse and other family members due to which a ripple effect of stress was generated company-wise and at personnel and familial level. This ripple phenomenon kept on going for a couple of weeks till this morning one of the senior managers commented that most of the rumors are not true except one resignation.

So what should we do if we hear a doubtful news; below are some recommendations:

1- Check if the source of the information is authentic. Usually people who talk about other people are inhabit of commenting without being fair. Remember the quote: "Small minds discuss people, Average minds discuss events, higher minds discuss ideas and great minds act in silence"

2- Judge the situation fairly. Find the original source of information and ask directly if possible and applicable.

3- Discuss the matter with two to three person. If all of them have a different story then most likely the original story is lost or it is completely false. Consider the parts which are common in all stories. This will help extract the original components of the news.

4- Don't get too much engaged in rumors however a serious advice is not to ignore the rumors completely. The news might be genuine, hence you must consider the corrective and preventive necessary measures else you may face serious consequences. You must be logical and analytical in your evaluation of the rumor.

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[HM:256978] Temporary Condition

What you are experiencing right now is a temporary condition. Things will soon be different, so act accordingly.

If life is going well, make the very most of your good fortune. Work to transform it into even more good things.

If life is not going so well, you can take steps right now to change that. Change will most certainly come, so work to make those changes positive, meaningful and enriching.

The way your life is now is not the way your life will always be. Fully enjoy all the good things about this moment while also working to create a positive future.

As good as things are right now, you can make them better. As difficult as things are right now, you can make them better.

This day, this moment, this experience will eventually pass. Give it your best while it is here, and then move forward to something even better.

Ralph Marston - The Daily Motivator

Thursday, 28 November 2013

[HM:256977] 10 Ways To Make Yourself Look And Be Smarter

Whether you're trying to survive an intensive college schedule or just want to seem smarter in front of your friends, you can do a lot of things to both look and be smarter. Here are ten simple tricks for boosting your real (and perceived) brain power.

10. Read Faster and Better

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Obviously, one of the best ways to boost your intelligence is to read more! You can read faster (and thus consume more knowledge) by getting your speech mechanism out of the equation. So give your mouth something to do, like eating, humming, or chewing gum to get through that stuff quickly. Then, take some time to absorb and reflect on what you read to keep it in your memory. Whether it'sWar and Peace or just the Wikipedia Random button, you'll be surprised by how much more you learn when you're reading not just fast, but well. Photo by Zitona.

9. Speak Up (and Do It With Expression)

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The more you can contribute to a conversation, a meeting, or other discourse, the smarter you'll come off. Even if it means admitting ignorance or asking questions, you'll still look better than if you stay silent—and you might actually learn something in the process. Expressive speech is key: you can boost your credibility a lot by simply making sure you speak with an engaging tone. Change your pitch and volume as necessary, and try to minimize the number of pauses as you speak. A little confidence goes a long way. Photo by MagneticNorth.

8. Don't Fall Prey to BS

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When someone's trying to convince you of something, they can often resort to logical fallacies, appeals to your emotion, and other "workarounds". Learn the most common forms of BS so you can detect them as they come up. By knowing what they are, you'll also be able to avoid dishing out those same fallacies yourself, which can be a big hit to your credibility if someone catches you.Image remixed from Evan Vucci (AP) and Pablo Martinez Monsivals (AP).

7. Focus on What You Know

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When engaged in a heated discussion with your friends, you're bound to stumble upon a few holes in your knowledge. It's okay to admit when you don't know something, but if you're feeling particularly self-conscious and want to keep up the appearance of intelligence, the key is emphasizing what youdo know. If you're in an argument, don't stress disagreement so much as agreement—that way, you aren't straying away from things you know about. You're stressing the parts you do know while still taking part in the discussion. Photo remixed from originals by auremar andartenot (Shutterstock).

6. Get Some Exercise

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A healthy body means a healthy brain. So, in between all the reading and mind-expanding, make sure you're leading a healthy physical life, too. That means eating right and getting regular exercise. A number of studies. have shown links between regular activity and intellecual capacity, productivity, and creativity. Will spending all day at the gym make you smarter? Not quite, but sitting around all day will not only kill you, but hinder your brain from being at its absolute best.

5. Talk to Yourself

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While mumbling to oneself is often looked at the behavior of a crazy person, a recent study showed that talking out loud to yourself can help give you a temporary cognitive boost when trying to find something. The theory behind it: when you give yourself verbal labels to a task you're performing, you focus better on the task at hand at any given moment. So when you feel the need to open your mouth, don't fight the urge—it might help you get things done faster.Photo by atomicjeep.

4. Learn a Second Language

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People who know a second or third language are often perceived as smart by others, but research shows that it can actually make you smarter, too. If you know a second language, you're able to adapt to and switch between certain mental tasks better than those that only know one, so if you want to give your brain a real boost, learning a new language is a real (and useful!) way to do so. It's not actually hard to do, either: all you need is this simple four step method to learn in just a few months.

3. Do Things the Hard Way

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Technology really has made our lives easier (after all, that's what Lifehacker's all about), but sometimes it's worth doing things the hard way. Take GPS navigation, for example: it's great that you can essentially never get lost, but if you rely on it too much, you'll never truly learn your way around. Instead, wean yourself off your GPS dependency and actually learn your way around town, develop a sense of direction, and learn to navigate using your brain. Doing things the hard way can help keep your brain sharp, so don't be afraid to forgo the easy stuff once in a while. Photo by Ramunas Geciauskas.

2. Know What Won't Make You Smarter

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There's a lot of work going into researching what makes us smarter—much of which we've mentioned here—but it's also important to know what won't make you smarter. Check out our list of nine stubborn brain myths that just won't die to see just a few examples, like "the internet is making us dumber" (it isn't, if you use it properly), "listening to classical music makes children smarter" (unlikely), or that "brain games make you smarter" (don't waste your time). The less time you spend on silly myths, the more time you can spend actually expanding your brain, so get these out of your system now. Photo by Igor Nazarenko (Shutterstock).

1. Just Believe You Can Be Smarter

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The last step? Just believe you can be smarter. Studies have shown that this simple belief can actually make it true. That isn't to say you should be pompous: you need toassume you aren't that great yet, which will leave you open to learning new things and asking new questions—the exact sort of things that can make you smarter. But it'll never happen if you believe your intelligence is somehow fixed, so once that roadblock is gone, you may find you're much freer to pursue the level of intelligence you want. If you're having trouble doing that, it may be time to recalibrate your reality—attitude is everything. Title image remixed from Alberto Zornetta (Shutterstock) and Petr84(Shutterstock).

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[HM:256976] Story About a Father And His Son

An 65 year old man was sitting on the sofa in his house along with his 38 years old highly educated son. Suddenly a crow perched on their window.

The Father asked his Son, "What is this?"

The Son replied "It is a crow".

After a few minutes, the Father asked his Son the 2nd time, "What is this?"

The Son said "Father, I have just now told you "It's a crow".

After a little while, the old Father again asked his Son the 3rd time, what is this?"

At this time some expression of irritation was felt in the Son's tone when he said to his Father with a rebuff. "It's a crow, a crow".

A little after, the Father again asked his Son t he 4th time, "What is this?"

This time the Son shouted at his Father, "Why do you keep asking me the same question again and again, although I have told you so many times 'IT IS A CROW'. Are you not able to understand this?"

A little later the Father went to his room and came back with an old tattered diary, which he had maintained since his Son was born. On opening a page, he asked his Son to read that page. When the son read it, the following words were written in the diary:-

"Today my little son aged three was sitting with me on the sofa, when a crow was sitting on the window. My Son asked me 23 times what it was, and I replied to him all 23 times that it was a Crow. I hugged him lovingly each time he asked me the same question again and again for 23 times. I did not at all feel irritated I rather felt affection for my innocent child".

While the little child asked him 23 times "What is this", the Father had felt no irritation in replying to the same question all 23 times and when today the Father asked his Son the same question just 4 times, the Son felt irritated and annoyed.

So, if your parents attain old age, do not repulse them or look at them as a burden, but speak to them a gracious word, be cool, obedient, humble and kind to them. Be considerate to your parents. From today say this aloud, "I want to see my parents happy forever. They have cared for me ever since I was a little child. They have always showered their selfless love on me. They crossed all mountains and valleys without seeing the storm and heat to make me a person presentable in the society today".

Say a prayer to God, "I will serve my old parents in the BEST way. I will say all good and kind words to my dear parents, no matter how they behave.

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[HM:256975] Knock, Knock Prayer

I knocked at heaven's door this morning.

God asked me�'My child, what can I do for you?'

And I said, 'Father,

please protect and bless the person reading this message.'

God smiled and answered�'Request granted'.

If you believe,

send this to seven people and back to the one who sent it to you.

By doing this, you have succeeded in praying for eight people today.

'Be kinder than necessary,
for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.'

Wednesday, 27 November 2013

[HM:256974] Garden, Grass and Garbage

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There is a garden near the place I live. My kids enjoy playing there. The garden service team trims the grass every 3-4 weeks. When the grass is trimmed it looks so lively, lovely and fresh. Kids enjoy and spend more time in the garden. After 2 weeks or so, the grass starts getting taller and turning yellow. This makes the garden unattractive. Also I noticed that the day grass is trimmed and someone throws a cigarette box or any other garbage it looks extremely bad however when the grass is taller and someone throws something, it's hardly visible.

If I consider the grass as human brain and the grass as negative thoughts and cigarette box as stress then I learn a very good moral from this analogy. Let me explain this: When I don't have any negative thoughts and stress I have a beautiful, powerful and fresh mind offering great services to the society, family and all humanity. However if I have negative thoughts (and in turn negative behavior) I start becoming the point of concern for the society, family, friends and colleagues. And when I have too many negative thoughts, I start nourishing roots of stress even if I don't know about it, just like the cigarette box not visible when grass is tall. Hence it is recommended to 'trim the grass' quite often. In my analogy, trimming the grass means to throw away unnecessary thoughts and clean the mind from such garbage. When I have a clean mind (like trimmed grass), I can easily identify the roots of stress (cigarette box in trimmed grass) and easily handle the situation with my analytical skills eventually making my life more beautiful.

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[HM:256973] Pay the price for success

Success has a price, and today you have the golden opportunity to pay that price. Choose to do so, and valuable, unique, new fulfilling success is yours.

Though the price you must pay for success is significant, it is never a burden. Willingly, joyfully and enthusiastically pay that price, and true success will fill your life.

To pay the price of success, you must engage your effort, your creativity, your resourcefulness and a whole lot of other strengths, skills and abilities. What's truly beautiful is that when you pay the price of success, it actually ends up paying you back many, many times over.

If you're trying to avoid paying the price of success, you're running away from your best possibilities. Stop, turn around, step up, do what must be done, and taste the sweet fulfillment that's waiting for you.

Success has a very steep price, and one of life's greatest joys is the experience of paying that price. Don't ever cheat yourself out of the opportunity to feel that joy.

Success has many benefits, and one big benefit is in the price you must pay. Pay that price, every chance you get, and enjoy the immense rewards of doing so.

Ralph Marston - The Daily Motivator

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[HM:256972] Job Interview 8 Points to Remember

I've interviewed thousands of people for jobs ranging from entry-level to executive. Easily three-fourths of the candidates made basic interviewing mistakes.

Did I still hire some of them? Absolutely... but never count on your qualifications and experience to outweigh a bad interview.

Here are eight practical ways to shine:

Be likable. Obvious? And critical. Making a great first impression and establishing a real connection is everything. Smile, make eye contact, be enthusiastic, sit forward in your chair, use the interviewer's name.... Be yourself, but be the best version of yourself you possibly can. We all want to work with people we like and who like us. Use that basic fact to your advantage. Few candidates do.
Never start the interview by saying you want the job. Why? Because you don't know yet. False commitment is, well, false. Instead...
Ask questions about what really matters to you. (Here are five questions great job candidates ask.) Focus on making sure the job is a good fit: Who you will work with, who you will report in to, the scope of responsibilities, etc. Interviews should always be two-way, and interviewers respond positively to people as eager as they are to find the right fit. Plus there's really no other way to know you want the job. And don't be afraid to ask several questions. As long as you don't take completely take over, the interviewer will enjoy and remember a nice change of pace.
Set a hook. A sad truth of interviewing is that later we often don't remember a tremendous amount about you -- especially if we've interviewed a number of candidates for the same position. Later we might refer to you as, "The guy with the alligator briefcase," or, "The lady who did a Tough Mudder," or, "The guy who grew up in Panama." Sometimes you may be identified by hooks, so use that to your advantage. Your hook could be clothing (within reason), or an outside interest, or an unusual fact about your upbringing or career. Hooks make you memorable and create an anchor for interviewers to remember you by -- and being memorable is everything.
Know what you can offer immediately. Researching the company is a given; go a step farther and find a way you can hit the ground running or contribute to a critical area. If you have a specific technical skill, show how it can be leveraged immediately. But don't say, for example, "I would love to be in charge of revamping your social media marketing." One, that's fairly presumptuous, and two, someone may already be in charge. Instead, share details regarding your skills and say you would love to work with that team. If there is no team, great -- you may be put in charge. If there is a team you haven't stepped on any toes or come across as pushy. Just think about what makes you special and show the benefits to the company. The interviewer will be smart enough to recognize how the project you bring can be used.
Don't create negative sound bites. Interviewers will only remember a few sound bites, especially negative ones. If you've never been in charge of training, don't say, "I've never been in charge of training." Say, "I did not fill that specific role, but I have trained dozens of new hires and created several training guides." Basically, never say, "I can't," or "I haven't," or "I don't." Share applicable experience and find the positives in what you have done. No matter what the subject, be positive: Even your worst mistake can be your best learning experience.
Ask for the job based on facts. By the end of the interview you should have a good sense of whether you want the job. If you need more information, say so. Otherwise use your sales skills and ask for the job. (Don't worry; we like when you ask.) Focus on specific aspects of the job: Explain you work best with teams, or thrive in unsupervised roles, or get energized by frequent travel.... Ask for the job and use facts to prove you want it -- and deserve it.
Reinforce a connection with your follow-up. Email follow-ups are fine; handwritten notes are better; following up based on something you learned during the interview is best: An email including additional information you were asked to provide, or a link to a subject you discussed (whether business or personal.) The better the interview -- and more closely you listened -- the easier it will be to think of ways you can make following up seem natural and unforced. And make sure you say thanks -- never underestimate the power of gratitude.

Source: Inc

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