Hyderabad Blues: March 2014

Monday, 31 March 2014

[HM:257213] Read this Story if Your Kids Chat Online

Shannon could hear the footsteps behind her as she walked toward home. The thought of being followed made her heart beat faster. "You're being silly," she told herself, "no one is following you." To be safe she began to walk faster, but the footsteps kept up with her pace. She was afraid to look back and she was glad she was almost home. Shannon said a quick prayer, "God please get me home safe." She saw the porch light burning and ran the rest of the way to her house. Once inside she leaned against the door for a moment, relieved to be in the safety of her home. She glanced out the window to see if anyone was there. The sidewalk was empty. After tossing her books on the sofa she decided to grab a snack and get on line. There she could talk to strangers without being afraid. After all, no one knew who she really was and couldn't hurt her.

She logged on under her screen name "ByAngel213". Checking her Buddy List she saw GoTo123 was on. She sent him an instant message:

ByAngel213: Hi I'm glad you are on! I thought someone was following me home today. It was really weird!

GoTo123: LOL You watch too much TV. Why would someone be following you? Don't you live in a safe neighborhood?

ByAngel213: Of course I do... LOL... I guess it was my imagination... cause I didn't see anybody when I looked out.

GoTo123: Unless you gave your name out on line... You haven't done that have you?

ByAngel213: Of course not. I'm not stupid you know.

GoTo123: Did you have a softball game after school today?

ByAngel213: Yes and we won!!

GoTo123: That's great! Who did you play?

ByAngel213: We played the Hornets... LOL..their uniforms are so gross! They look like bees... LOL

GoTo123: What is your team called?

ByAngel213: We are the Canton Cats. We have tiger paws on our uniforms. They are really kewl.

GoTo123: Do you pitch or what?

ByAngel213: No... I play second base. I got to go.. My homework has to be done before my parents get home. I don't want them mad at me...Bye

GoTo123: Catch you later.. Bye

GoTo123 decided it was time to teach Angel a lesson. One she would never forget. He went to the member menu and began to search for her profile. When it came up he highlighted it and printed it out. He took out a pen and began to write down what he knew about Angel so far. ...Her name: Shannon ...Birthday: Jan. 3, 1985 age: 13 ...State where she lived: North Carolina ...Hobbies: softball, chorus, skating and going to the mall.

Besides this information he knew she lived in Canton. She had just told him. He knew she stayed by herself until 6:30 every afternoon until her parents came home from work. He knew she played softball on Thursday afternoons on the school team and the team was named the Canton Cats. Her favorite number 7 was printed on her jersey. He knew she was in the seventh grade at the Canton Junior High School. She had told him all this in the conversations they had on line. He had enough information to find her now.

"She'll be so surprised," he thought, "she doesn't even know what she has done."

Shannon didn't tell her parents about the incident on the way home from the ball park that day. She didn't want them to make a scene and stop her from walking home from the softball games. Parents were always overreacting and hers were the worst. It made her wish she was not an only child. Maybe if she had brothers and sisters her parents wouldn't be so overprotective.

By Thursday Shannon had forgotten about the footsteps following her. Her game was in full swing when suddenly she felt someone staring at her. It was then that the memory came back. She glanced up from her second base position to see a man watching her closely. He was leaning against the fence behind first base and he smiled when she looked at him. He didn't look scary and she quickly dismissed the fear she had felt.

After the game he sat on a bleacher while she talked to the coach. She noticed his smile once again as she walked past him. He nodded and she smiled back. He noticed her name on back of the shirt. He knew he had found her. Quietly he walked a safe distance behind her. He didn't want to frighten her and have to explain what he was doing to anyone.

It was only a few blocks to Shannon's home and once he saw where she lived he quickly returned to the park to get his car. Now he had to wait. He decided to get a bite to eat until the time came to go to Shannon's house. He drove to a fast food restaurant and sat there until time to make his move.

Shannon was in her room later that evening when she heard voices in the living room. "Shannon, come here," her father called. He sounded upset and she couldn't imagine why. She went into the room to see the man from the ballpark sitting on the sofa. "Sit down," her father began, "this man is a policeman and he has just told us a most interesting story about you."

Shannon moved cautiously to a chair across from the man. How could he tell her parents anything? She had never seen him before today!

"Do you know who I am Shannon?" The man asked

"No..." Shannon answered.

"I am your on line friend, GoTo123."

Shannon was stunned. "That's impossible! GoTo is a kid my age! He's 14 and he lives in Michigan!" The man smiled. "I know I told you all that... but it wasn't true. You see, Shannon, there are people online who pretend to be kids; I was one of them. But while others do it to find kids and hurt them, I belong to a group of parents who do it to protect kids from predators. I came here to find you to teach you how dangerous it is to give out too much information to people online. You told me enough about yourself to make it easy for me to find you. Your name, the school you went to, the name of your ball team and the position you played. The number and name on your jersey just made finding you a breeze."

Shannon was stunned. "You mean you don't live in Michigan?"

He laughed. "No, I live in Raleigh. It made you feel safe to think I was so far away, didn't it?" She nodded. "I had a friend whose daughter was like you. Only she wasn't as lucky. The guy found her and murdered her while she was home alone. Kids are taught not to tell anyone when they are alone, yet they do it all the time on line. The wrong people trick you into giving out information a little here and there online. Before you know it, you have told them enough for them to find you without even realizing you have done it. I hope you've learned a lesson from this and won't do it again."

"I won't," Shannon promised solemnly.

"Will you tell others about this so they will be safe too?"

"It's a promise!"

That night Shannon and her dad and Mom all knelt down together and prayed. They thanked God for protecting Shannon from what could have been a tragic situation.

Junaid Tahir
www.DailyTenMinutes.com

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Sunday, 30 March 2014

[HM:257212] Winners Vs Losers

Winners have dreams ;
Losers have schemes.

Winners see the grains;
Losers see the pain.

Winners see the potential;
Losers see the past.

Winners make it happen;
Losers let it happen.

Winners see possibilities;
Losers see problems.

Winners makes commitments;
Losers makes promises.

Winners are a part of the team;
Losers are apart from the team.

Winner always has a programmed
Loser always has an excuse.

Winner says "Let me do it for you";
Loser says "That is not my job".

Winners say "I must do something";
Losers say "Something must be done".

Winner is always a part of the answer;
Loser is always a part of the problem.

Winner sees an answer for every problem;
Loser sees a problem for every answer.

Winners believe in win/win;
Loser believe for them to win, someone has to lose.

Winner says "It may be difficult but it is possible";
Loser says "It may be possible but it is too difficult".

Winner makes a mistake. He says "I was wrong";
Loser makes a mistake; he says "It wasn't my fault".

Source: Unknown

[HM:257211] Telephonic Interview Tips

Telephone interviews are one of the initial methods to screen candidates. They are meant to be a relatively quick and easy way to narrow down the massive pool of applicants, before compiling a short list for on premise interviews.

The desired response of a telephone interview is to secure a face-to-face interview. The response of a telephone interview is slightly different from that of a face-to-face interview. The telephone interview is designed to lead to a face-to-face interview.

Here is how to prepare for a telephone interview. Although, it is customary for interviewers to give you an advance notice of a telephone interviews, some will not. They will just ring up and go for it. Once you start sending out applications, be prepared for telephone interviews. That call can come at 8 am Monday morning, 7 pm Friday evening or 9 pm Sunday night.

Practice your voice projection. Speak aloud to practice. Ask someone else to listen to you or even record and play yourself back. It's amazing how different you sound. You will notice the bad habits...the "errrrrrs" and "ummmmmms."

Obviously, telephone practice as well as general interview and question practice are essential. Further, you should be able to demonstrate a good knowledge regarding the job, company, its' products and services and even its' competitors...that means undertaking research.

Try to anticipate the questions you'll be asked that demonstrate you can do the job. Then, prepare accordingly. Technical questioning on the telephone is common - as a means to screen candidates. The questions may not in great depth, but should be known by a good candidate.

During the interview, the interviewer has only ears with which to judge you, and that is something you must exploit.

Some Telephone Interview Tips

	Have your research and company notes to hand. You should also have a copy of the resume that you sent to that company. Remember, the most effective resume are those that are especially tailored
	Take a "surprise" call in your stride. If you are looking for work then no telephone interviews should really be a "surprise."
	Be calm and collected. Remember to slow your breathing...at least try by counting to 5 with each inhale and exhale
	Smile: it really makes a difference in your voice so much so that the person on the other end can tell when you are smiling
	Sound positive, friendly, and collected
	If you need time say..."Thank you for calling. Would you wait just a moment while I close the door?" Rest the phone as you pull out your resume and company information
	Be professional, as if it was a face-to-face interview. Don't be over-familiar with the interviewer. It does happen!
	You should always refer to the interviewer by his or her surname until invited to do otherwise
	Listen carefully to the interviewer. Listening and communication skills are essential
	Be factual in your answers
	Do not smoke or eat while on the phone
	Shut out all background noise, such as pets, children playing and the television
	Take notes: They will be invaluable to you in preparing for the face-to-face meeting. No need to record the conversation...that is a bit over the top!
	Prompt the interviewer to invite you to interview by saying, "I am immediately available for interview if you would like to arrange one now."
	Taking care to ascertain the correct spelling and pronunciation of the interviewer's name shows your concern for the small but important things in life--it will be noticed
	If you require more details like a Job Description or Person Specification ask for one
	Thank the interviewer for her time and that you hope to hear soon. No harm in saying that you are very keen for a face-to-face interview. One school of thought asserts that you should ask three times for an interview; subtly of course. "I am immediately available for interview." "I really would like an opportunity to meet you and look around the company." "I will be in the area on Monday and it is no problem to pop in."
	It is difficult to evaluate an opportunity properly over the telephone. Even if the job doesn't sound right, go to the interview. At the very minimum it will give you practice
	Moreover, once you attend a face-to-face interview the job may look that bit more attractive as you gather more facts. You might even discover a more suitable opening elsewhere within the company; it does happen

Telephonic interview implies responding to recruiters queries through phone. It is an effective method to measure a person’s communication and listening skills. The process can be automated or non-automated. An automated telephonic interview involves answering a series of standard questions and in a non-automated telephonic interview, there is a direct contact with the recruiter.

A telephonic interview can happen in three circumstances:

When you initiate a call to the recruiter and they show interest. The call from thereon is an interview.
A company calls you based upon a previous contact.
You have a designated time to talk to a company's representative.

How can you make telephonic interview successful?

Prepare well

Never jump to take an unexpcted and unplanned call. Excuse yourself and ask them to reschedule the call.
Keep your resume handy.
Rehearse answers related to your accomplishments as it is a commonly asked question and a good way to impress the recruiters.
Keep your research material ready to act as reference point.
Stay ready to take notes.
Ward off anything and everything in the room that can distract.
Keep yourself calm in body and mind.
Make sure you need no break during the water, not even for getting a glass of water ot attending to nature's call.
Turn off call waiting on your phone, warm up your voice while waiting for the call, have a glass of water handy, turn off your stereo, TV and any other possible interruption.
Finally, be ready with the answers to the basic questions and to rehearse them in front of the mirror to gain confidence.

Perform well

Listening skill is a crucial component during the interview process. Comprehend the questions well and give to the point answers.
Avoid talking in between and let the recruiter complete his thought or question before you speak.
It is important to speak at a slow pace and be clear so that the interviewer can understand what you are saying.
Do not use unprofessional language and sound courteous and polite. Thank the interviewer once the interview process is complete.

Most importantly keep your tone pleasant as most interviewers are experienced and can easily judge the comfort level of the candidate, so it is important to smile and stay relaxed. Give your best during the telephonic interview as it will pave the way for further interactions.

Some helpful hints:

* Introduce yourself clearly and directly. Engage in some “small talk” at the start of the interview, just as you would a face-to-face interview.

* Speak clearly into the receiver and modulate your voice. Your voice is the only way you have of showing eagerness, enthusiasm and zest for the job. Your voice reveals both your personality and your attitude toward the caller. Don’t forget to smile! It makes a big difference in a conversation, even on the telephone.

* Have your resume and the job advertisement with you for reference, and a pencil and some paper to make notes.

* Some students find that it helps to dress for a telephone interview as you would for a face-to-face interview – it often helps to psychologically prepare you for this form of business “meeting”.

* No matter how or where your interview is conducted, you should still have the same goal: to communicate to the interviewer that you are the best candidate for the position for which you are being interviewed. If the interview has been scheduled in advance, you should prepare as carefully as you would for a formal “sit down” in someone’s office.

* Eliminate any distractions from your immediate environment (desk toys, newspaper clippings, your shopping list). Dress professionally and maintain good posture. The one bonus to a telephone interview is that you can prearrange notes to prompt you and to keep you on track, but only if you can refer to them unobtrusively. You do not want the person on the other end of the line to hear you shuffling papers in the background!

Before taking up a Telephonic interview

Keep your resume in front of you.
Keep all of your employer research materials within easy reach of the phone.
Have a notepad handy to take notes.
Turn off your stereo, TV, and any other potential distraction.
Warm up your voice while waiting for the call. Sing an uplifting song to yourself.
Have a glass of water handy, since you will not have a chance to take a break during the call.
Speaking of breaks, if your phone interview is at a set time, make sure you answer nature's call first.

Do’s

Do take telephonic interview as seriously as a personal interview.
If the call is unexpected, ask for a reschedule. It is always OK.
You need to have enthusiasm and sound confident while answering the questions.
Always put across the details on your experience, skills and your strong points.
Answers need to be precise to the questions asked, at the same time do not miss out to list out your strengths.

Don’ts

Avoid / Minimize distractions. Always take a telephonic interview in a quiet place.
Avoid using mobile as there can be some signal problem and it may be problematic.
If using a mobile do not switch on the voice message.

After Telephonic interview

fter a phone interview, send a thank-you note by email that recaps your best selling points.
You can also follow up to know the result of the interview.

Be articulate. Practice asking yourself questions, then answer them with confidence in front of the mirror. This will give you an idea of your facial expressions and pronunciation.
Keep your answers brief and to the point.
You must know where to stop and start while answering questions. Never talk non-stop. Control the speed of your speech.
Listen carefully to the interviewer's questions. Understand the question and start your answer by recollecting your experiences and knowledge.
If you are not able to understand the question clearly, ask the Interviewer to repeat it. Request for more related information if you are not sure about the answer.
If you don't know the answer or haven't used a particular method or tool, please say "I don't know" or "I haven't experienced that situation " or " I haven't used that tool, but if given the opportunity, I can learn fast". An Interviewer will always take it positively when you admit the truth.
While starting a conversation, introduce yourself with your first name and last name (if any) and greet your Interviewer with a "How are you" or "Hi" or "How are you doing"
If the Interviewer discusses issues regarding country, lifestyle, weather, accommodation, language, driving, culture, politics, food and family background (rare) - answer briefly.
Please keep a copy of your resume in front of you. The interviewer may ask about individual project details, your roles, responsibilities, major accomplishments, product advantages, techniques followed, tools used, and your involvement in that project. Refer to your resume quickly and answer the question promptly.
Don't be nervous or panic. Be cool, enjoy yourself. Remember you have the skills the client needs. Never show or express unwillingness to be interviewed. Even if you are not interested in that job or client, don't discourage the interviewer especially after having started a dialogue with him/her. If you decide on another client call the Interviewer, thank him and give a valid reason for not joining.
After successfully completing the interview process, if interviewer asks "do you have any questions ?", ask! Clarify issues related to company background, place of work if hired, starting date and timings. Do not ask about the position offered, rates at this stage since those issues come under the negotiation process.
Don't raise or talk about issues related to discrimination against race, religion, color, country and sex. These are extremely touchy topics and are best avoided.
Don't use slang words.
Don't stretch an argument.
After completion of interview, say "Thanks" or "Thanks for your time" or "Thanks for your time and have a good morning/evening day" and put down the phone very slowly.
If the interviewer makes a positive offer and you are satisfied with it, it would be nice if you said the following: "Thanks for giving me an opportunity to work with your company and I will do my best to prove my skills....."
If you are asked to briefly introduce your entire work experiences, take 30 seconds to explain all major points, client names and contributions you have made. I recommend you practice this by writing down the exact contents and reading it aloud in front of the mirror.
Always be positive.
Try to answer all questions with practical examples based on your previous experience. This way, you can recollect your experiences and prove that you have faced challenging situations in your career.
If you feel you lack adequate communication skills, attempt to regularly converse with friends on general topics. Listen to the radio, watch discussion oriented TV programs. Talk to yourself in front of mirror and watch for, speed, lip movements and body language.
After the interview is over, recollect what you did, how you performed. Note down where you were lacking. These points will help you better your performance the next time around.
References always works well no matter where you are applying. Managers and HR departments will always cross check with the references you have provided. So have at least 3 references who can give them a very clear picture about your experience and skill set.
If you are not hired, don't loose heart. There may be several reasons for the client/consulting company to reject the applicant even after a successful interview:

Budget constraints
Terms with medical staffing company are not agreeable to client
Salary not agreeable to client
Medical staffing company is getting better offer for you from a different client.
Medical staffing is not willing to send you because of short term assignment.
Client is not ready to sponsor your Work Visa and has restrictions in company corporate policies.

Here are some common reasons for rejection along with a suggestion for improvement:

Lack of communication skills - actively work towards improving your communication skills.
Lack of leadership qualities.
Applicant skills and experience is not matched with client requirements - you can't do anything. You have nothing to lose. Find another Company where they can match your skills and knowledge set.
Not enough number of references - ensure that you have enclosed at least three excellent references.
Not ready to pay you what you want - before asking what you want, you need to do little market survey based on your experience. You need to go through Salary Survey and learn more about general company HR policies too.

Very importantly, when you address the Interviewer, Use his/her first name or put Mr. before last name. This is important while writing e-mail, holding a general conversation or making a presentation.

We hope these tips will be of use to you for your next telephonic interview. Never hesitate to ask for help from others. Gather as much information as you can about the company and position you have applied for.

Be Prepared For preparing the phone interview, there are several things you can do. To prepare for the phone interview you can consider the following points:
You can keep all of your employer research materials within easy reach of the phone.
You can tape your resume to a wall near the phone. It will help a lot during the call and will be a constant reminder for your job search.
Have a notepad handy to take notes.
If the phone interview will occur at a set time, Following are some additional points you have to consider:

Turn off call waiting on your phone.
Place a “Do Not Disturb” note on your door.
Warm up your voice while waiting for the call.
Have a glass of water handy, so that you will not have a chance to take a break during the call.
Turn off your stereo, TV, and any other potential distraction.
Do not be afraid to pick up the phone The first step in the hiring process is the telephone interview. It may happen that when you pick up the phone, the call may be from any company. Then that time ask the recruiter to repeat his or her name. Verify the spelling and write it down. Use the recruiter’s name in your response.
If there is really any problem for you to talk, then ask for a telephone number and a convenient time to call back. You are now ready to make a good impression during your first five minutes.

The phone interview tips will help you master the phone interview and get you to the next step - the face to face interview. So do not afraid to pick the phone.

Be a good listener During telephonic interview, you must keep in mind that you must be a good listener.
Avoid interrupting and let the recruiter complete his thought or question before you respond. Ask for clarification. Use open-ended questions. The more information you can gather, the better you can respond. We must know the fact that good listener is the best quality.

Saturday, 29 March 2014

[HM:257210] Project Management Office (PMO): What is it?

Project management office is the process by which a project manager and project resources share project information and communicate on project issues. A project management office organization is a group of project resources that are responsible for working on a project. Project management office may be broken down in any number of ways, depending on the type of project.

When planning to setup project management office one should cater to several key points:

The nature of the project. Is this for construction project management? Engineering project management?
What staffing is available for the project?
What budget does the project manager have available for administration, project records, and overhead?
Who must have access to project management records?
Who will the project manager submit project management data to?
How will project resources submit project data such as time, costs, budget requests, change order requests, and change order approvals?

Although a project manager may not have considered this information in detail, these questions can significantly simply the project management process and reduce project management overhead costs for the life of a project by utilizing a project management office.

That's why A1 Enterprise now offers customers a cost effective project management office organization that records and audits project data and provides project reports when required. This new project management service prevents a project manager from having to staff for and manage project administrative resources. A1 Enterprise organizes and maintains your project records including budget requests and approvals, payment requests, change order requests, change order approvals, and contract documents. A1 Enterprise uses the A1 Tracker online project management software to make project data available online for those the project manager decides should have access.

A key benefit that the project manager will recognize is not having to reallocate administrative resources in between projects or when transitioning into the next project. Another benefit is the project manager does not need to learn any new system, and can in fact spend more time managing the project work than working at the computer managing project data. This service reduces software training costs, software implementation costs, software licensing costs, and project overhead costs.

[HM:257209] The 7 Super Powers You Must Posses

Each one of us want high happiness index, peace of mind, mature character and success in life but most of us do not really strive to achieve these goals. Out of us who struggle for their goals a very few are able to make things happen. The difference between successful and unsuccessful people is the difference between the level of Inner Power both the categories posses in their brains and the level of Power they exert to achieve what they want to achieve. In my opinion, the Inner Powers consist of following seven categories and the intellectuals who possess all these mental muscles can accomplish a great deal of victories in most of the fields of life:

1- The Power of Focus:
There is a story which tells that during the bird shooting session, the instructor asked each shooter what he is looking at. One candidate said, I am looking at the flock of birds, another said, I am looking at the tree where birds are about to sit however one shooter said that I am looking in the eyes of one of the flying birds ! This is the power of focus I want to draw your attention towards. Focus means to insert all of your energies on one goal and do not let any obstacles change your attention. Remember, you see problems when you move your eyes away from your target. Don't let your mind distracted from your goal. Don't let impure thoughts spoil your plans. Remember, what you focus on increases so don't let the seeds of negativity get nourished in your brain. Use Zoom-In and Zoom-Out tool to strengthen your Power of Focus.

2- The Power of Vision:
A fast pace horse running in the wrong direction will never reach its destination. Instead it will cause misleading ripple effect to its followers too. Building the Power of Vision starts with your thinking style, awareness about your field, your comprehension capabilities and your caliber to imagine the future.

A) Your thoughts are the seeds for your character because thoughts give birth to actions which become your habits and constitutes towards your personality and consequently your destiny. Empowering your thought process involves staying away from negative thoughts, trying being part of the solutions instead of problems with less criticism and more optimism.

B) Awareness: Empowering your awareness level involves a lot of reading, meeting with high potency people, watching relevant documentaries and observing people in the industry. Make habit of reading great magazines and watching news daily to improve your vision.

Once you develop the Power of Vision, your comprehension levels will be as deep as a sea; your thoughts will fly as high as sky and your strategies will be as solid as rocks.

3- The Power of Now:
People make plans people forget plans people fail. Why? They don't execute. They keep thinking and they keep waiting for the 'right' moment to kick off their plans. This 'right' moment never comes if they keep waiting for it. The right moment is now. The best way to make your dreams come true is to wake up and act. This is understood that planning is important. However if you keep wasting your time in the name of planning, you will end up as a failed chap. Break down the big target into smaller tasks and start implementing one by one starting today. Don't waste your time as your idea might get implemented by someone else. You might have more tough circumstances with more complications tomorrow. You might have to bear the burden of additional responsibilities so Now is the time to take action. Now is the time to make difference. Now is the time to make things happen. Remember, your thoughts will not take you anywhere if you don't implement them. So take action Now !!!

4- The Power of Positivity:
Successful people posses a positive mindset. To develop this power you must shield yourself from Negativity. Remember that being positive will give you the freedom to look forward instead of looking in past. If you keep wandering in past with negative thoughts you will not be able to proceed with your goals. Positive people are part of solutions not part of problems. Positive people convert risks into opportunity. They have the sense of gratitude. They believe in skills not in luck. If you want to build this power, try staying away from negative souls, make the habit of reading good books, join some nice pages on Facebook or Google Plus, read wisdom quotes and surround yourself in positive people.

5- The Power of Analytics:
Being analytical helps in many ways, for example, breaking down bigger problem in to smaller tasks, considering the issue from more wider and multiple angles, evaluating the options from Needs and Wants perspective, differentiating between urgent and important tasks and eventually working on things which matter the most. Whether you want to analyze large data at work, or you want to purchase a new mobile set, Resolving a technical issue or handling a conflict in family or work, analytical skills help you a lot. Read a thorough article Here

6- The Power of Flexibility:
Mostly people think the other way around; in fact being flexible doesn't mean being weak instead it portrays your powerful personality trait that you care about others and respect the difference of opinion. It is said: "Better to bend than to break" so the more flexible you are, the more you will be able to manage stress which will strengthen your thought process. Keep your ego aside and listen to the perspective of others. Keep your mental doors open and be flexible in changing your plans. Be adaptable to situations because sometimes U-turn in life are fine to take. Don't get dishearten. Remember, God takes men to deep waters not to drown them but to cleanse them".

7- The Power of 'Implosiveness':
Great people are not explosive at all. They are cool at mind and heart. They are not sensitive and reactive in nature. When a tragic situation triggers their anger, they analyze it from logical, sentimental and ethical angles and then respond in order to improve the situation and not vice versa. So you must believe in the fact reactive nature will reduce your friends and increase your foes.

Empower your personality with these 7 super powers and gain ultimate heights in life.

Remember, success is not a destination, it's a journey. For this journey, there are no escalators so you must take the ladder passage. Which means you have to take step by step approach to reach to the top. If you are in doubt at any stage, just take next small step and notice the consequences. If all fine, go ahead; if something goes wrong, take a step back and re-assess your direction.

Associated posts:

Begin the Leadership Journey

Ultimate Guide for Stress Management

Six Tips for Anger Management

How to Handle Rumors at Work

Six Tips for Resolving Conflicts

Junaid Tahir
www.DailyTenMinutes.com

Friday, 28 March 2014

[HM:257208] Refreshing the Famous 90/10 Principle

The Famous 90-10 Principle says:
"10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react

What does this mean?

We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. You determine the other 90%. How? By your reaction.
You cannot control a red light, but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.

Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of milk onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your wife and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.
You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. After a 15-minute delay you arrive at school. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your wife and daughter.

Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the cup of hot milk cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did you cause it?
The answer is

You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, getting stressed out etc.
The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle. The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. Next time you react to any situation, remember the 90-10 principle.

K.N.RAJAN

Junaid Tahir
www.DailyTenMinutes.com

Thursday, 27 March 2014

[HM:257207] 10 Deadly Signs of Negative Thinking

The way to overcome negative thoughts and destructive emotions is to develop opposing, positive emotions that are stronger and more powerful." -

Life could be so much better for many people, if they would just spot their negative thinking habits and replace them with positive ones.

Negative thinking, in all its many-splendored forms, has a way of creeping into conversations and our thinking without our noticing them. The key to success, in my humble opinion, is learning to spot these thoughts and squash them like little bugs. Then replace them with positive ones. You'll notice a huge difference in everything you do.

Let's take a look at 10 common ways that negative thinking emerges —
get good at spotting these patterns, and practice replacing them with
positive thinking patterns. It has made all the difference in the
world for me.

10 Deadly Sins of Negative Thinking

1. I will be happy once I have _____ (or once I earn X).
Problem: If you think you can't be happy until you reach a certain
point, or until you reach a certain income, or have a certain type of
house or car or computer setup, you'll never be happy. That elusive
goal is always just out of reach. Once we reach those goals, we are
not satisfied — we want more.
Solution: Learn to be happy with what you have, where you are, and who
you are, right at this moment. Happiness doesn't have to be some state
that we want to get to eventually — it can be found right now. Learn
to count your blessings, and see the positive in your situation. This
might sound simplistic, but it works.

2. I wish I were as ____ as (a celebrity, friend, co-worker).
Problem: We'll never be as pretty, as talented, as rich, as sculpted,
as cool, as everyone else. There will always be someone better, if you
look hard enough. Therefore, if we compare ourselves to others like
this, we will always pale, and will always fail, and will always feel
bad about ourselves. This is no way to be happy.
Solution: Stop comparing yourself to others, and look instead at
yourself — what are your strengths, your accomplishments, your
successes, however small? What do you love about yourself? Learn to
love who you are, right now, not who you want to become. There is good
in each of us, love in each of us, and a wonderful human spirit in
every one of us.

3. Seeing others becoming successful makes me jealous and resentful.
Problem: First, this assumes that only a small number of people can be
successful. In truth, many, many people can be successful — in
different ways.
Solution: Learn to admire the success of others, and learn from it,
and be happy for them, by empathizing with them and understanding what
it must be like to be them. And then turn away from them, and look at
yourself — you can be successful too, in whatever you choose to do.
And even more, you already are successful. Look not at those above you
in the social ladder, but those below you — there are always millions
of people worse off than you, people who couldn't even read this
article or afford a computer. In that light, you are a huge success.

4. I am a miserable failure — I can't seem to do anything right.
Problem: Everyone is a failure, if you look at it in certain ways.
Everyone has failed, many times, at different things. I have certainly
failed so many times I cannot count them — and I continue to fail,
daily. However, looking at your failures as failures only makes you
feel bad about yourself. By thinking in this way, we will have a
negative self-image and never move on from here.
Solution: See your successes and ignore your failures. Look back on
your life, in the last month, or year, or 5 years. And try to remember
your successes. If you have trouble with this, start documenting them
— keep a success journal, either in a notebook or online. Document
your success each day, or each week. When you look back at what you've
accomplished, over a year, you will be amazed. It's an incredibly
positive feeling.

5. I'm going to beat so-and-so no matter what — I'm better than him.
And there's no way I'll help him succeed — he might beat me.
Problem: Competitiveness assumes that there is a small amount of gold
to be had, and I need to get it before he does. It makes us into
greedy, back-stabbing, hurtful people. We try to claw our way over
people to get to success, because of our competitive feelings. For
example, if a blogger wants to have more subscribers than another
blogger, he may never link to or mention that other blogger. However,
who is to say that my subscribers can't also be yours? People can read
and subscribe to more than one blog.
Solution: Learn to see success as something that can be shared, and
learn that if we help each other out, we can each have a better chance
to be successful. Two people working towards a common goal are better
than two people trying to beat each other up to get to that goal.
There is more than enough success to go around. Learn to think in
terms of abundance rather than scarcity.

6. Dammit! Why do these bad things always happen to me?
Problem: Bad things happen to everybody. If we dwell on them, they
will frustrate us and bring us down.
Solution: See bad things as a part of the ebb and flow of life.
Suffering is a part of the human condition — but it passes. All pain
goes away, eventually. Meanwhile, don't let it hold you back. Don't
dwell on bad things, but look forward towards something good in your
future. And learn to take the bad things in stride, and learn from
them. Bad things are actually opportunities to grow and learn and get
stronger, in disguise.

7. You can't do anything right! Why can't you be like ____ ?
Problem: This can be said to your child or your subordinate or your
sibling. The problem? Comparing two people, first of all, is always a
fallacy. People are different, with different ways of doing things,
different strengths and weaknesses, different human characteristics.
If we were all the same, we'd be robots. Second, saying negative
things like this to another person never helps the situation. It might
make you feel better, and more powerful, but in truth, it hurts your
relationship, it will actually make you feel negative, and it will
certainly make the other person feel negative and more likely to
continue negative behavior. Everyone loses.
Solution: Take the mistakes or bad behavior of others as an
opportunity to teach. Show them how to do something. Second, praise
them for their positive behavior, and encourage their success. Last,
and most important, love them for who they are, and celebrate their
differences.

8. Your work sucks. It's super lame. You are a moron and I hope you
never reproduce.
Problem: I've actually gotten this comment before. It feels wonderful.
However, let's look at it not from the perspective of the person
receiving this kind of comment but from the perspective of the person
giving it. How does saying something negative like this help you? I
guess it might feel good to vent if you feel like your time has been
wasted. But really, how much of your time has been wasted? A few
minutes? And whose fault is that? The bloggers or yours? In truth,
making negative comments just keeps you in a negative mindset. It's
also not a good way to make friends.
Solution: Learn to offer constructive solutions, first of all. Instead
of telling someone their blog sucks, or that a post is lame, offer
some specific suggestions for improvement. Help them get better. If
you are going to take the time to make a comment, make it worth your
time. Second, learn to interact with people in a more positive way —
it makes others feel good and it makes you feel better about yourself.
And you can make some great friends this way. That's a good thing.

9. Insulting People Back
Problem: If someone insults you or angers you in some way, insulting
them back and continuing your anger only transfers their problem to
you. This person was probably having a bad day (or a bad year) and
took it out on you for some reason. If you reciprocate, you are now
having a bad day too. His problem has become yours. Not only that, but
the cycle of insults can get worse and worse until it results in
violence or other negative consequences — for both of you.
Solution: Let the insults or negative comments of others slide off you
like Teflon. Don't let their problem become yours. In fact, try to
understand their problem more — why would someone say something like
that? What problems are they going through? Having a little empathy
for someone not only makes you understand that their comment is not
about you, but it can make you feel and act in a positive manner
towards them — and make you feel better about yourself in the process.

10. I don't think I can do this — I don't have enough discipline.
Maybe some other time.
Problem: If you don't think you can do something, you probably won't.
Especially for the big stuff. Discipline has nothing to do with it —
motivation and focus has everything to do with it. And if you put
stuff off for "some other time", you'll never get it done. Negative
thinking like this inhibits us from accomplishing anything.

Solution: Turn your thinking around: you can do this! You don't need
discipline. Find ways to make yourself a success at your goal. If you
fail, learn from your mistakes, and try again. Instead of putting a
goal off for later, start now. And focus on one goal at a time,
putting all of your energy into it, and getting as much help from
others as you can. You can really move mountains if you start with
positive thinking
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[HM:257206] 7 Steps For Melting Anger On The Spot

Anger is a lethal force that undermines our lives in all kinds of ways. Sometimes it erupts openly and other times anger camouflages it and covertly undermines your life. Some experience anger as strength and power. They feel it is necessary in order to maintain control. Others assume they have the right to express anger towards those in their lives. These are some of the lies anger tells us. In fact, when we are angry we are out of control and our ability to respond wisely is diminished.

Here are 7 steps for handling anger on the spot.

Step 1: Realize that anger is a choice you make

Anger is not a form of power, strength, or control. It is a toxin. Sometimes it provides a temporary high. After this high subsides, we are left weaker and more uncertain than before. Not only that, there are often negative consequences that have to be handled.

Basically anger narrows your focus, creates confusion and limits your ability to find constructive solutions. When anger arises, stop, breathe deeply, and immediately look at the larger perspective. Put the incident in context. For a moment, allow the other person to be "right". Tell yourself you have plenty of time to be right later. Your main goal is to have the anger subside so you can see the whole picture clearly.

Step 2: Become aware of the 24 forms of anger

Anger camouflages itself and finds many covert ways of manifesting. Unrecognized anger turns into all kinds of unwanted behavior. When these behaviors are not understood it is very difficult to correct them. Awareness is important in making necessary changes.

Some of the 24 forms of anger are: depression, passive aggressive behavior, compulsions, perfectionism, gossiping and certain kinds of competition at the workplace. When you realize that these are being fuelled by anger, you can take appropriate steps to handle them.

Step 3: Start Relationship Balancing

Relationship Balancing is the natural flow of energy, support and inspiration between individuals. When this flow is balanced individuals operate at their maximum level. When the flow is blocked or out of balance, individuals become depressed, apathetic, sick and resentful. When one feels needed and acknowledged, there is no end to their ability to tap their full potential. Envision balanced relationships. Write down what this means to you and notice how it compares to the reality of your particular situation. This initial step provides a map and new focus. It provides a direction to move in.

Step 4: Discover Your Relationship Balancing Quotient

List each individual you interact with. Score each person on the following questions from 1-10. See for yourself what is going on.

a) I I feel at ease with this person.

b) I trust this person.

c) I communicate naturally with this person.

d) I understand what they're communicating to me.

e) I am able to ask this person for what I want from them.

f) I am able to give this person what they want from me.

Assess exactly what is going on in your important relationships. Take a look at what you want from each relationship. Separate your needs and wants. Start communicating your feelings in a responsible manner and asking for what you really need and want. Start truly listening to the other, to who they actually are, not your images or agendas for them.

We can often be in a relationship with a person for a long time and not even begin to know who they truly are. As you begin taking the steps above, you will make natural adjustments in getting this relationship back on track.

Step 5: Stop Casting Blame

Blaming others is one of the largest factors in causing imbalance in your relationships and keeping the anger going. Stop casting blame. By blaming others you are disempowering yourself. By taking responsibility you are taking back control. Stop a moment and see the situation through your opponent's eyes. When you do this blame dissolves on the spot. Also, remember, the best defense against being hurt is to feel good about yourself and the way a person responds to you says more about them, than about you.

As you stop casting blame you will be letting go of all kinds of resentments. Resentment inevitably affects our well-being and always bounces back on us. Look for and find what is positive in each individual. Focus on that.

Step 6 - Create Realistic Expectations

There is nothing that makes us more angry and hurt than expectations we've been holding onto that have not been met. It is important that you become aware of what your expectations are for your relationships. Are they realistic? Does the other person hold expectations that are similar? Let go of unrealistic fantasies. Once this is done, much opportunity for anger diminishes on the spot.

Step 7 – Develop A Grateful Mind

See what different people in your lives are truly giving to you. We often take many things for granted and are even unaware of all that we are receiving day by day. Take time to write down each day what you are receiving. Be grateful for that. Make a point of giving thanks. The more we thank others, the happier we become. Also, take time to write down all that you have given others that day. It may be a surprise. We often think we are giving so much and receiving so little. This is a great cause of anger, deprivation and emptiness within. However, when we take time daily to write it down and look at it carefully, we are often surprised and how much we have received and how little given in return. As we look at it carefully, and balance these two activities, we learn to take pleasure both in what we have given and what has been received.

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[HM:257205] Story: House of 1000 Mirrors

Long ago in a small, far away village, there was place known as the House of 1000 Mirrors.

A small, happy little dog learned of this place and decided to visit. When he arrived, he bounced happily up the stairs to the doorway of the house.

He looked through the doorway with his ears lifted high and his tail wagging as fast as it could. To his great surprise, he found himself staring at 1000 other happy little dogs with their tails wagging just as fast as his. He smiled a great smile, and was answered with 1000 great smiles just as warm and friendly. As he left the House, he thought to himself, "This is a wonderful place. I will come back and visit it often."

In this same village, another little dog, who was not quite as happy as the first one, decided to visit the house. He slowly climbed the stairs and hung his head low as he looked into the door.

When he saw the 1000 unfriendly looking dogs staring back at him, he growled at them and was horrified to see 1000 little dogs growling back at him. As he left, he thought to himself, "That is a horrible place, and I will never go back there again."

All the faces in the world are mirrors. What kind of reflections do you see in the faces of the people you meet?

Junaid Tahir
www.DailyTenMinutes.com