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Saturday, 4 January 2014

[HM:257054] 89 ways to Avoid Divorce!

Marriage is tough on both men and women, and living with another person for years in the same house while facing the challenges of raising children, financing your life, working and dealing with health problems is never easy.

So if you want a rock solid marriage, one that will go the long haul - Read these words of advice carefully, and write them on your heart!

89 Tips for a Divorce-Proof Marriage:

1. Do it by surprise from time to time, leave love notes around the house.

2.Work as a team.

3. Say i love you to one another everyday.

4. Give a hug or kiss everyday

5. Do not withold sex unless its a mutual consent or special circumstances!

6. At least one date night once a week, and go over and beyond to make it special

7. Become each others best friend

8. Let no one get involved with your marital affairs includes parents, in laws and friends!

9. Exercise and work out together

10. Put your children first, then your marriage, then your extended family, then everything else in thats order.

11. Become transparent with one another.

12. Set boundaries for your marriage. It's important that you both know what you can and cannot do.

13. Lay aside your pride and ego – the winner of the argument is usually the loser!

14. Make his or her favorite meal.

15. Do things your spouse loves without you basing it on their performance.

16. Don't go tit for tat. Learn to let go.

17. Don't let the sun go down while you angry – another words try to resolve the issue asap

18. Fellowship, and get around other happily married couples

19. Plan and surprise your spouse with a romantic vacations as your budget allows

20. Live a healthy lifestyle

21. Look into his or her eyes, touch their face and give thanks for him or her who puts up with you during the good and bad times

22. Don't lie to each other. A hard truth is always better then an easy lie

23. Ask your mate if their are any needs going unmet.

24. Spend some type of quality time with your spouse

25. Invest in your marriage – do a marriage retreat at least 2x a year

26. Read Quran together and discuss God's plan for marriage.

27. Renew your vows – remember your promise to your spouse at the alter – for better or worse in sickness and in health.

28. Be ready to make many sacrifices – things you may not feel like doing – but do them anyway

29. Be ready to make many compromises.

30. Listen to your spouse's guidance.

31. Ask your mate for areas where they can improve in.

32. Hear one another out.

33. Try to resolve problems and issues when your both calm.

34. Instead of trying to be right look for the solution that brings peace.

35. Do not use sarcasm.

36. Tell your spouse you can't live without them.

37. If you know you did wrong, be ready to make things right.

38. Be ready to apologize and be ready to forgive when the situation arises.

39. Fight for your marriage!

40. Don't focus on your spouse weakness but focus on their strengths.

41. Keep good company around you and your ,you want people who can encourage and uplift you!

42. Husbands help out around the house – remember that your wife is a helpmate but that doesnt mean she does everything.

43. Wives encourage your husband give them praise, it strengthens them.

44. Find out your strengths and weaknesses and be ready to help one another with where you are weak.

45. Support one anothers goals and dreams.

46. Always consult one another when making big decisions

47. Give many compliments to one another

48. Understand the grass is not greener , you just have to water your lawn more

49. Don't compare your marriage with someone else's – you dont know whats goign on behind closed doors

50. Watch what you take into your spirit. Today's reality shows, our society's view, and what you see on tv are not good examples for marriage.

51. Never embarass your spouse in public – deal with your issues in private

52. Wives spend time encouraging him and supporting him and their is nothing you won't happily get.

53. Do not verbally abuse your spouse.

54. Do not physically abuse your spouse.

55. Do not bring up your past arguments, and disagreements.

56. Never bring up or use something in an argument, your spouse told you in confidence about him or her.

57. Let your spouse know you can be trusted.

58. Don't give your spouse any reason to feel insecure.

59. Read books on becoming a better husband.

60. Read books on becoming a better wife.

61. Learn your spouses love language.

62. Always be in a learning process with getting to know your spouses likes and dislikes.

63. Husbands make love to her mind during the day and the rest will follow

64. Try not to let your children see you in disagreement or arguing.

65. Husbands surprise her with roses and the like, not just for birthdays, holidays and anniversary, but just because

66. Wives, your husbans love surprises also, put on one of his favorite nighties just because.

67. Don't always try to get your way, but try to find a way that works for both of you

68. Alone time – yes its needed, but don't go overboard. Let your mate know your thinking of them

69. Its healthy to have your time with friends, so long as they respect your marriage

70. Never cheat.

71. Never try to justify a wrong.

72. Stay fit and stay looking your best for your husband or wife.

73. Hear your spouse out before jumping to conclusions.

74. Don't keep your spouse in the dark about things.

75. Never bad mouth your spouse to anyone.

76. Keep your love life between the two of you.

77. Your objective should be to make your spouse a better person as a result of being with you not by control but by love.

78. Open your spouse up to new things that are healthy for him or her.

79. Be open to new things, allow your spouse the chance to treat you like a king or queen

80. Communicate – he or she cannot read your mind.

81. Say what you mean, mean what you say.

82. Take your time to cool off, but when you start acting like room-mates your marriage is in trouble

83. Love, respect, loyalty and faithfulness should all be a given.

84. Have a vision and purpose for your marriage

85. Keep in mind your spouse is not your enemy but your best friend

86. Don't look at marriage as an obligation but look at it as chance to love your mate unconditionally.

87. Our character should reflect the fruits of the spirit, love, patience, kindness, long suffering

88. Your objective should not be to change your spouse, but for your spouse to see your change

89. You cant change your spouse, but you can change how you love them and how you react to them

Junaid Tahir
www.DailyTenMinutes.com

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Friday, 3 January 2014

[HM:257053] Four Types of Toxic People - Keep Yourself Away

By: Guy Finley

Those with whom we assemble, we soon resemble!

This simple old saying hides a deep Truth that can enlighten and empower every aspect of our lives:

Who we are — our very essence — is continually being transformed by the company we keep.

Stated differently, when we keep the company of what is light and bright, our lives get lighter and brighter. And when we keep the company of what is dark and discouraging, our lives can't help but be dragged downward.

This idea might sound a little simplistic at first, but its power soon becomes evident when we put it to use in the quest to realize our highest aspirations. The key lies in understanding that this principle is active on multiple levels at once. For instance, when referring to "the company we keep," we of course mean the people we spend time with every day — family, friends, co-workers, etc. However, on a deeper and more important level, "company" can also refer to the thoughts and feelings moving within us in any given moment.

1 Muckrakers: These negative sprits live to drag up old painful events and then revel in the anger, resentment, or bitterness that such unhappy memories hold. Stay away from any spirit, in others or in yourself, that wants you to dive into some suffering over what happened in any past moment.

2 Mud Slingers: These malicious spirits pull themselves up by pulling others down. They love to gossip, criticize, judge, and denigrate anyone who ever had the misfortune of spending time with them. The only loyalty these denizens of the unconscious worlds have is to their own pain, which they feed by involving everyone they can in their mud slinging.

3 Swamp Dwellers: There is a group of mired spirits that thrive on low vibrations, and that require a human instrument to play out their endless dark dissonance. Easily recognizable, these misfortunate forces serve up dreadful mental pictures of past and future events for the sake of the unnatural reactions they produce. Ignore these corrupted spirits and they must take their evil speculations elsewhere.

4 Life Haters: These dark spirits perpetuate their hold on the human soul by resisting the beautiful gifts of life. They trick us into commiserating with their complaining, cruelty, and irritation because without our unconscious consent, these chronically conflicted spirits can't spread their poison.

Just as harmful viruses require a human host to exist and thrive, so do negative states require the unconscious consent of human beings to carry out their dark mission. For what power does a negative thought have other than the power to convince a person to do its bidding? The answer is none!

When we begin to consciously withdraw our consent to associate with toxic people, and the toxic thoughts and feelings inside of us, we leave them with no place to thrive. Our real inner work is to sweep clean the places in ourselves where such creatures reside which in turn brightens our life and the lives of everyone around us.

Begin today, this very moment, to withdraw any permission you have unknowingly granted these dark spirits to be in your life. Do not judge yourself, or those around you in whom these misdirected forces are active, but instead come awake and refuse to spend one more moment of your life lending your precious life force to their dark purposes.

This powerful, positive action will change your life. As you begin to refuse to consort with what is dark, you'll find that you begin to attract with what is light, bright, and cheerful. Your relationships will deepen, your professional life will take on new vigor and freshness, and the whole of your days will begin to resemble the radiant Life that you have deliberately chosen as your conscious companion.

Guy Finley is Founder and Director of the Life of Learning Foundation, devoted to helping people realize their True Relationship with Life. Guy is the author of over 30 books and audio albums that have sold over a million copies in 15 languages worldwide, and is on the faculty of the Omega Institute, the nation's largest and most trusted holistic education provider. For more information about Guy Finley and Life of Learning call (541) 476-1200 or visit http://www.guyfinley.com.

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[HM:257052] Success Advice: Be Open To Improvement

Sometimes, people get into the habit of thinking they have the answers needed. You need to accept that you do not have all the answers and more importantly, be open to recommendations from other people. That does not mean you have to agree or even follow those suggestions, but it does mean to listen. You never know when someone will have an idea that will make things easier and more functional, ultimately helping you arrive at your goal more efficiently.

Thursday, 2 January 2014

[HM:257051] Health: Information about Tonsils Removal

http://www.entnet.org/HealthInformation/tonsilsAdenoidsPostop.cfm

A tonsillectomy, commonly referred to as "getting your tonsils out," is a surgery to remove the tonsils when a child has tonsillitis or frequent infections that won't go away in spite of using antibiotics.
An adenoidectomy is a surgery to remove the adenoids when a child has had breathing problems or ear and sinus problems that won't go away with antibiotics.
A tonsillectomy and adenoidectomy (T&A) is done to remove both the tonsils and the adenoids when a child has both breathing and swallowing problems.
Because the surgeon can reach the tonsils and adenoids simply by opening the child's mouth, there are no incisions (cuts) needed on the outside of the skin.

This factsheet is for people who are having their adenoids and/or tonsils removed, or who would like information about it. It's relevant for both adults and parents of children who are having the operation. However, for simplicity, we refer to 'you' throughout.

Adenoids and tonsils are small lumps of tissue at the back of your nose and throat. An operation to remove your tonsils is called a tonsillectomy and an operation to remove your adenoids is called an adenoidectomy. An operation to remove both is called an adenotonsillectomy.

You will meet the surgeon carrying out your operation to discuss your care. It may differ from what is described here as it will be designed to meet your individual needs.

About adenoid and tonsil removal

Adenoids and tonsils help fight ear, nose and throat infections in young children. Your adenoids lie where your throat meets the back of your nose. Your tonsils lie at the back of your throat, one on each side.

Illustration showing the location of the adenoids and tonsils

Tonsil removal

Most operations to remove tonsils are done in children, but adults can have them removed too. Inflammation of your tonsils is known as tonsillitis. Your GP may refer you to an ENT surgeon (a doctor who specialises in identifying and the surgical treatment of conditions of the ear, nose and throat) to remove your tonsils if you have had tonsillitis:

more than seven times in the last year
five times or more in each of the last two years
three or more times in each of the last three years
and then developed a quinsy (a collection of pus between a tonsil and the wall of your throat)

Having your tonsils removed can be an effective treatment for reoccurring and persistent tonsillitis.

Adenoid removal

Most operations to remove adenoids are done in children. The most common reason for removing adenoids is glue ear. If your child is under three and is having grommets inserted for glue ear, his or her adenoids will probably be removed at the same time. Having your adenoids removed is an effective treatment for reoccurring ear infections and nasal blockage caused by enlarged adenoids. However, surgery isn't always needed for children as they often grow out of these problems.

If your child has enlarged adenoids and tonsils, he or she may develop a condition called obstructive sleep apnoea – this causes breathing problems at night. If this happens, your surgeon may recommend an adenotonsillectomy.

What are the alternatives to having your adenoids and tonsils removed?

You may be prescribed antibiotics but, generally, they don't help and aren't used for long-term treatment.

Children's adenoids and tonsils shrink as they get older, so an operation isn't always necessary. Ask your GP for more advice.

Preparing for adenoid and tonsil removal

Your surgeon will explain how to prepare for your procedure. If you have a cold or infection in the week before your operation, it's important to let the hospital know. The operation may need to be postponed until you have fully recovered.

You will have the operation under general anaesthesia. This means you will be asleep during the operation. You will be asked to follow fasting instructions. This means not eating or drinking, typically for about six hours beforehand. However, it's important to follow your surgeon's advice.

Your surgeon will discuss with you what will happen before, during and after your operation, and any pain you might have. This is your opportunity to understand what will happen, and you can help yourself by preparing questions to ask about the risks, benefits and any alternatives to the procedure. This will help you to be informed, so you can give your consent for the procedure to go ahead, which you may be asked to do by signing a consent form.

What happens during adenoid and tonsil removal?

The operation usually takes around 30 minutes but this will depend on whether you're having your tonsils or adenoids removed, or both.

There are several different methods to remove tonsils and adenoids, which include the following.

Traditional method – your surgeon will carefully cut your tonsils and/or adenoids out using specialised instruments. He or she will apply pressure to stop the bleeding, and use dissolvable stitches or heat to seal the wound.
Lasers or ultrasound waves – your surgeon will use high-energy waves to cut out your adenoids and/or tonsils and will seal the blood vessels to stop any bleeding.
Diathermy – your surgeon will use heat from an electric current to cut out your adenoids and/or tonsils. He or she may gently suck the tissue out with a special instrument and will seal the blood vessels.
Power-assisted adenoidectomy – your surgeon will use a microdebrider (a powered instrument with a very small rotating tip) to remove your adenoids.

Video: how an adenotonsillectomy is carried out

What to expect afterwards

You may need to rest until the effects of the anaesthetic have passed. Try to drink and eat as soon as you feel ready.

You may need pain relief to help with any discomfort as the anaesthetic wears off. You will usually be able to go home when you feel ready, unless your surgeon recommends that you stay overnight. Before you go home, a nurse will give you a date for a follow-up appointment.

You will need to arrange for someone to drive you home. You should have a friend or relative stay with you for the first 24 hours after your operation.

General anaesthesia temporarily affects your co-ordination and reasoning skills, so you must not drive, drink alcohol, operate machinery or sign legal documents for 24 hours afterwards. If you're in any doubt about driving, contact your motor insurer so that you're aware of their recommendations, and always follow your surgeon's advice.

If your surgeon used dissolvable stitches, the amount of time they will take to disappear depends on the type of stitches you have. Ask your surgeon for more information about when you can expect them to disappear.

Recovering from adenoid and tonsil removal

It usually takes about a week or two to make a full recovery from adenoid or tonsil removal, but this varies between individuals, so it's important to follow your surgeon's advice. Rest for this time and stay at home. Keep away from crowded and smoky places, and from people with coughs and colds.

If you need pain relief, you can take over-the-counter painkillers such as paracetamol or ibuprofen. Your surgeon may prescribe you stronger painkillers as well as antibiotics. Always ask your doctor or pharmacist for advice and read the patient information leaflet that comes with your medicine.

Try to drink enough fluids and eat normally. If it's uncomfortable to eat, it may help to take a painkiller (such as paracetamol) half an hour before meals. Don't take aspirin as it may cause bleeding. See our frequently asked questions for more information.

Your throat may look white as your skin heals. If you notice any bleeding from your throat or nose, contact your GP or hospital immediately.

What are the risks?

As with every procedure, there are some risks associated with having your adenoids and tonsils removed. We have not included the chance of these happening as they are specific to you and differ for every person. Ask your surgeon to explain how these risks apply to you.

Side-effects

Side-effects are the unwanted but mostly temporary effects you may get after having the procedure. Common side-effects include:

feeling sick
a sore throat, earache and stiff jaw or neck
a blocked nose – this usually clears within a week or so
a change in your voice – you may sound like you're talking through your nose; this can last for around two to four weeks

Complications

Complications are when problems occur during or after the operation. The possible complications of any operation include an unexpected reaction to the anaesthetic or an infection. Specific complications of operations to remove the adenoids and/or tonsils are uncommon, but include:

bleeding after the operation
damage to your teeth or jaw – this can be caused by the instruments that are used to keep your mouth open during surgery
infection and breathing problems – there is a risk that blood and tissue from the operation may get into your throat
injury to your Eustachian tube (the tube that connects your middle ear with your throat)

Children who have had their adenoids and tonsils removed may find that their voice sounds different after surgery. This is because, before the operation, the enlarged adenoids and tonsils may have prevented the child from hearing high-pitched sounds clearly. After the operation, these sounds are easier to hear and so it may seem to your child that his or her voice is higher than it used to be.

Produced by Stephanie Hughes, Bupa Health Information Team, July 2012.

For answers to frequently asked questions on this topic, see FAQs.

http://www.bupa.co.uk/individuals/health-information/directory/a/adenoid-and-tonsil-removal

[HM:257050] Excel Tip: IF Function

IF Function

by NDH » Thu Jan 02, 2014 5:08 pm

The "IF" function is a simple and powerful one and helps automate decision making in your spreadsheet. The "IF" function checks if the specified condition is true or false, does one thing if it's true, does another if it's false.

The syntax for IF function is:

=IF(logical_test, [value_if_true], [value_if_false])

For example, let's say we have a spreadsheet of a few students and we need to find out quickly who passed the test. We have their Roll Nos. and Marks in columns B & C respectively. In the 'Status' column (Column D), we can create a simple IF function that will tell us whether or not the student passed. (Let's assume 50 or higher is the passing score).

In cell D4, we would enter =IF(C4>49,"PASS","FAIL"). This tells Excel to look in cell C4 (Marks) and test to see if its greater than 49. If it is, excel enters the word "PASS" in cell D4. If the marks obtained are 49 or lower, the word "FAIL" is entered instead.

Simply drag down the cell with the formula, till the last student and get the Pass / Fail Status of each.

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Wednesday, 1 January 2014

[HM:257049] The Donkey in the Well

One day a farmer's donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn't worth it to retrieve the donkey. He invited all his neighbors to come over and help him. They all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly. Then, to everyone's amazement he quieted down. A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well. He was astonished at what he saw. With each shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off and take a step up. As the farmer's neighbors continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and happily trotted off!

MORAL : Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The trick to getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up. Each of our troubles is a steppingstone. We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up! Shake it off and take a step up. Remember the five simple rules to be happy: 1. Free your heart from hatred - Forgive. 2. Free your mind from worries - Most never happens. 3. Live simply and appreciate what you have. 4. Give more. 5. Expect less from people but more from yourself. You have two choices... smile and close this page, or pass this along to someone else to share the lesson

[HM:257048] Right Where You Are

Start where you are, and do what you can. Make use of what you have, in the time available to you, and there's much you can get done.

Don't waste your time waiting for conditions to be perfect, for they will never be. Go ahead, with things as they are, and begin making real progress.

The place to aim is as high as you can imagine. Yet the place to start is right where you are.

Let go of any concerns about not having enough time, or money, resources or anything else. Focus instead on the great value and potential of what you do have and of what you can do right now.

See the real treasure that exists in your opportunity and ability to make good, effective use of this moment. Claim that treasure by going ahead and putting forth your very best effort.

Today is your day to achieve and to make your world a better place. Start where you are, and get yourself solidly on the way to wherever you wish to be.

Ralph Marston - The Daily Motivator