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Thursday, 10 March 2016

[HM:258368] 20 Things to Stop Letting People Do to You

It's time to…Be with those who bring out the best in you, not the stress in you.

Stop letting people drag you into needless arguments. – Never waste your time trying to explain yourself to people who have proven that they are committed to misunderstanding you. And don't define your intelligence or self-worth by the number of arguments you have won, but by the number of times you have said, "This needless nonsense is not worth my time!"
Stop letting people drown you with their negativity. – Positivity is a choice. Choose wisely. Be smart enough to walk away from the negativity around you… it is never worth your while, ever.
Stop letting people make you feel ashamed of your scars. – Scars remind us that our past is real, and that we have grown beyond it. Every scar has a story. Don't be afraid to tell it and own it.
Stop listening to those who berate you for your honest mistakes. – To grow strong and wise, you must have the courage to make mistakes. Allow yourself to be a beginner. No one starts off being excellent.
Stop letting others blind you from YOUR truth. – Today, the only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday. Prove yourself to yourself, not others. (ReadA New Earth.)
Stop letting people bully you. – Bullying is not OK. Period. There is no freedom on Earth that gives someone the right to assault who you are as a person. Sadly, some people just won't be happy until they've pushed your ego to the ground and stomped on it. What you have to do is have the nerve to stand your ground. Don't give them any leeway. Nobody has the power to make you feel small unless you give them that power.
Stop letting friends be untrue to you. – What is a true friend? Someone who loves you just the way you are, but still inspires you to be a better person. BE a true friend to others, and keep only true friends close to you.
Stop letting the same people lie to you over and over again. – If someone fools you once, shame on them. If someone fools you twice, shame on you. If you catch someone lying to you, speak up. Some people will lie to you repeatedly in a vicious effort to get you to repeat their lies over and over until they effectively become true. Don't partake in their nonsense. Don't let their lies be your reality.
Stop letting people take advantage of you. – Sometimes people don't notice the things we do for them until we stop doing them. This is NOT right! Realize this. You deserve better. You deserve to be with people who make you smile – friends who don't take you for granted – friends who won't leave you hanging.
Stop letting people treat you like a back-up plan. – Don't settle to simply be someone's downtime, spare time, part time, or sometime. If they can't reliably be there for you when you need them most, they're not worth your time.
Stop letting the wrong people get between you and the right ones. – Don't let the people who refuse to love you keep you from the people who do love you. Spend time with those who make your world a little brighter simply by being in it. Someday you will either regret not doing so, or you will say, "I'm glad I did."
Stop letting hateful people motivate you to hate them back. – As Gandhi once said, "An eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind." Regardless of how despicable another has acted, never let hate build in your heart. Fighting hatred with hatred only hurts you more. When you decide to hate someone you automatically begin digging two graves: one for your enemy and one for yourself. (Read The Four Agreements.)
Stop letting people leave grudges in your mind. – Remember, the first to apologize is the bravest. The first to forgive is the strongest. The first to move forward is the happiest. Always.
Stop letting people use your past to poison your present. – Life is too short to tirelessly struggle with old news and those who refuse to let it go. Some people cannot stand that you're moving on with your life and so they will try to drag your past to catch up with you. Do not help them by acknowledging their behavior. Keep moving forward. Practice acceptance and forgiveness. Letting go of the past is your first step to happiness.
Stop letting people convince you that change is a bad thing. – The things we can't change often end up changing us. This change happens for a reason. Roll with it. It won't be easy, but it will be worth it in the end.
Stop letting people steer you away from meaningful pursuits.– If you can smile when no one else is around, you really mean it. So don't let other people get between you and the ideas and activities that truly move you.
Stop letting people dump on your dreams. – Life will test you to see how serious you are about pursuing a particular path. And sooner or later you may face negative feedback from others. When this happens, remember not to let anyone crush your spirit. If you are passionate about something, pursue it, no matter what anyone else thinks. That's how dreams are achieved.
Stop letting naysayers talk you out of putting in the extra effort. – Hard times often lead to greatness. Keep the faith. It will be worth it in the end. The beginnings to great things are always the hardest.
Stop letting people convince you of their quick-fix schemes. – Anything worth achieving takes time and dedicated effort. Period. Honestly, I used to believe that making wishes and saying prayers changed things, but now I know that wishes and prayers change us, and WE change things.
Stop letting people tell you that you need more to be happy. – Thankfulness is the start of happiness. Be sure to appreciate what you've got. Be thankful for the little things in life that mean a lot.

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Wednesday, 9 March 2016

[HM:258367] 13 Confident Ways to Overcome Your Shyness | Inc.com

Those who have never suffered from shyness have no idea how debilitating it can be, especially for someone in a professional situation. If shyness is holding you back, learn how to get past it and become more confident.

Shyness can truly hold people back--partly because those who are shy tend to avoid public situations and speaking up, and partly because they experience so much chronic anxiety.

If that's you, take comfort in knowing you are far from alone--four out of 10 people consider themselves shy.

But here's the good news: Shyness can be overcome. With time and effort and a desire to change, it's possible to break through.

If your shyness is severe, you may need help from a therapist or counselor, but most people can overcome it on their own.

Take your first steps in getting past shyness with these 13 techniques to help you become a more confident you.

1. Don't tell.

There's no need to advertise your shyness. Those who are close to you already know, and others may never even have an opportunity to notice. It's not as visible as you probably think.

2. Keep it light.

If others bring up your shyness, keep your tone casual. If it becomes part of a discussion, speak of it lightheartedly.

3. Change your tone.

If you blush when you're uncomfortable, don't equate it with shyness. Let it stand on its own: "I've always been quick to blush."

4. Avoid the label.

Don't label yourself as shy--or as anything. Let yourself be defined as a unique individual, not a single trait.

5. Stop self-sabotaging.

Sometimes we really are our own worst enemy. Don't allow your inner critic to put you down. Instead, analyze the power of that voice so you can defuse it.

6. Know your strengths.

Make a list of all your positive qualities--enlist a friend or family member to help if you need to--and read or recite it when you're feeling insecure. Let it remind you how much you have to offer.

7. Choose relationships carefully.

Shy people tend to have fewer but deeper friendships--which means your choice of friend or partner is even more important. Give your time to the people in your life who are responsive, warm, and encouraging.

8. Avoid bullies and teases.

There are always a few people who are willing to be cruel or sarcastic if it makes for a good punch line, some who just have no sense of what's appropriate, and some who don't care whom they hurt. Keep a healthy distance from these people.

9. Watch carefully.

Most of us are hardest on ourselves, so make a habit of observing others (without making a big deal out of it). You may find that other people are suffering from their own symptoms of insecurity and that you are not alone.

10. Remember that one bad moment doesn't mean a bad day.

Especially when you spend a lot of time inside your own head, as shy people tend to do, it's easy to distort experiences, to think that your shyness ruined an entire event--when chances are it wasn't a big deal to anyone but you.

11. Shut down your imagination.

Shy people sometimes feel disapproval or rejection even when it isn't there. People probably like you much more than you give yourself credit for.

12. Stare it down.

Sometimes when you're scared, the best thing to do is to face it head on. If you're frightened, just stare it down and lean into it.

13. Name it.

Make a list of all your jitters and worries. Name them, plan how you're going to eliminate them, and move forward.

Suffering from shyness shouldn't keep you from the success you are seeking, so try these simple tools and make them work for you--in fact, they're good techniques to try whether you're shy or not.

Source: inc

[HM:258366] 7 Smart Strategies for Dealing With Moody People

7 Smart Strategies for Dealing With Moody People

Some of us seem to have pretty constant moods, while others' moods are much more turbulent. Dealing with moody people can become tiresome in the long-term.

Some moody people are just struggling with life, while others use moodiness as a tool to manipulate the people around them.

It's helpful to know the difference.

Regardless of the source of the moodiness, these tips can help:

1. Try to be understanding. Some people are simply going through a difficult time. Teenagers are prone to all sorts of hormonal issues that make managing their emotions challenging. Sometimes people are depressed, sick, tired, or chronically upset about something in their lives. It's important to attempt to be understanding during these times.

However, some people are simply bullies and use their moodiness to get what they want from others. Read on for strategies for dealing with this type of moodiness.

2. Take a break. If you're forced to live or work with a moody person, give yourself a break at regular intervals. Go do something fun and get away for a bit. Find a non-moody person to talk to for 15 minutes. Dealing with moody people can be exhausting.

3. Stay calm. There's no reason to get upset. Nine times out of ten, you've probably done nothing wrong. Others are generally moody for reasons that have nothing to do with you directly. You don't have to solve the moodiness or allow it to make you feel bad.

4. It might be best to consider removing the person from your life. If you're dealing with someone that always seems to dictate the mood around them, they are controlling. If your patience, concern, and advice don't seem to have any effect, and they are making you miserable, consider removing them from your life.

Any relationship should consist of both people giving and taking. If you're always giving and they're always taking, why are still spending time with them?

5. Avoid falling into the trap. Moody people stay moody because it helps them to get what they want. Others allow them to have their way in order to keep the peace. But giving in on a short-term basis only increases your challenge in the long term. If you reward them, they're much less likely to change.

6. Learn to ignore the negative mood. Pretend the other person isn't moody at all. Just go about your day as if nothing were wrong. We can't control others, but we can control our reactions to them. With practice, it becomes easier than you think.

7. Address the behavior. Sometimes you can put an end to moodiness by letting them know that you're onto their game. This can be as simple as asking, "I've noticed you're irritable a lot. Why is that?" The last thing a moody person wants is for their moodiness to become a topic in itself. They want to use it as a tool.

Be sensitive to those that are moody due to dealing with a significant challenge in life. Some people simply need sympathy and understanding. Those that use moodiness as a means to manipulate are a different story.

Avoid rewarding these bullies by having some personal boundaries. Don't let their moods affect the choices you make. Learn to act as if there were no moodiness at all. Letting these folks have their way is a huge mistake. You're only encouraging the behavior to continue in the future.

The moodiness of others doesn't have to have a huge impact on you.

Use these strategies to effectively deal with their negative moods so they don't become a challenge in your own life.

Junaid Tahir
www.DailyTenMinutes.com

[HM:258365] 7 Smart Strategies for Dealing With Moody People

7 Smart Strategies for Dealing With Moody People

Some of us seem to have pretty constant moods, while others' moods are much more turbulent. Dealing with moody people can become tiresome in the long-term.

Some moody people are just struggling with life, while others use moodiness as a tool to manipulate the people around them.

It's helpful to know the difference.

Regardless of the source of the moodiness, these tips can help:

However, some people are simply bullies and use their moodiness to get what they want from others. Read on for strategies for dealing with this type of moodiness.

Any relationship should consist of both people giving and taking. If you're always giving and they're always taking, why are still spending time with them?

The moodiness of others doesn't have to have a huge impact on you.

Use these strategies to effectively deal with their negative moods so they don't become a challenge in your own life.

Junaid Tahir
www.DailyTenMinutes.com

[HM:258364] 7 Smart Strategies for Dealing With Moody People

7 Smart Strategies for Dealing With Moody People

Some of us seem to have pretty constant moods, while others' moods are much more turbulent. Dealing with moody people can become tiresome in the long-term.

Some moody people are just struggling with life, while others use moodiness as a tool to manipulate the people around them.

It's helpful to know the difference.

Regardless of the source of the moodiness, these tips can help:

However, some people are simply bullies and use their moodiness to get what they want from others. Read on for strategies for dealing with this type of moodiness.

Any relationship should consist of both people giving and taking. If you're always giving and they're always taking, why are still spending time with them?

The moodiness of others doesn't have to have a huge impact on you.

Use these strategies to effectively deal with their negative moods so they don't become a challenge in your own life.

Junaid Tahir
www.DailyTenMinutes.com

Sunday, 6 March 2016

[HM:258363] I Don't Have Time for This

If you spend a few minutes every day doing some very simple exercises of concentration and self-control, it may be of great benefit to you. But so many people claim not to have the time! Well, since they don't have the time to be in a state of peace, harmony and light, there will always be time for difficulties, disorders and darkness.

The one certain thing about life is that humans will be unhappy, sad, disappointed and discouraged. It is less certain that they will be happy, strong and peaceful. Why? Because they all enjoy saying, 'I don't have time'. This is the easy way to justify their laziness and inertia. No time to study or to pray or do exercises. And what keeps these people so busy that they don't have time to devote to their psychological wellbeing and their spiritual elevation? Often nothing more than trivialities. This excuse of having no time might work with the blind and the ignorant, but never with heaven.

[HM:258362] 25+ Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

BY CHARLENE DECESARE

In today's world, true peace must come from within us and our own actions. Here are 30 small things you can do on a regular basis to increase your overall sense of harmony, peace, and well-being:

1. Don't go to every fight you're invited to

Particularly when you're around those who thrive on chaos, be willing to decline the invitation to join in on the drama.

2. Focus on your breath

Throughout the day, stop to take a few deep breaths. Keep stress at bay with techniques such as "square breathing." Breathe in for four counts, hold for four counts, then out for four counts, and hold again for four counts. Repeat this cycle four times.

3. Get organized and purge old items

A cluttered space often creates a cluttered spirit. Take the time to get rid of anything you haven't used in a year and invest in organizational systems that help you sustain a level of neatness.

4. Stop yourself from being judgmental

Whenever you are tempted to have an opinion about someone else's life, check your intentions. Judging others creates and promotes negative energy.

5. Say 'thank you' early and often

Start and end each day with an attitude of gratitude. Look for opportunities in your daily routine and interactions to express appreciation.

6. Smile more

Even if you have to "fake it until you make it," there are many scientific benefits of smiling and laughing. Also, pay attention to your facial expression when you are doing neutral activities such as driving and walking. Turn that frown upside down!

7. Don't worry about the future

As difficult as this sounds, there is a direct connection between staying in the present and living a more peaceful life. You cannot control the future. As the old proverb goes, "Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it won't get you anywhere." Practice gently bringing your thoughts back to the present.

8. Eat real food

The closer the food is to the state from which it came from the earth, the better you will feel in eating it. Choose foods that grew from a plant over food that was made in a plant.

9. Choose being happy over being right

Too often, we sacrifice inner peace in order to make a point. It's rarely worth it.

10. Keep technology out of the bedroom

Many studies, such as one conducted by Brigham and Women's Hospital, have connected blue light of electronic devices before bed to adverse sleep and overall health. To make matters worse, many people report that they cannot resist checking email and social media when their cell phone is in reach of their bed, regardless of the time.

11. Make use of filtering features on social media

You may not want to "unfriend" someone completely, however you can choose whether you want to follow their posts and/or the sources of information that they share.

12. Get comfortable with silence

When you picture someone who is the ultimate state of peace, typically they aren't talking.

13. Listen to understand, not to respond

So often in conversations, we use our ears to give us cues about when it is our turn to say what we want to say. Practice active listening, ask questions, process, then speak.

14. Put your troubles in a bubble

Whenever you start to feel anxious, visualize the situation being wrapped in a bubble and then picture that sphere floating away.

15. Speak more slowly

Often a lack of peace manifests itself in fast or clipped speech. Take a breath, slow down, and let your thoughtful consideration drive your words.

16. Don't procrastinate

Nothing adds stress to our lives like waiting until the last minute.

17. Be yourself

Nothing creates more inner discord than trying to be something other than who we really are. Authenticity breeds happiness.

18. Prioritize yourself

You are the only person who you are guaranteed to live with 24 hours a day for the rest of your life.

19. Forgive others

Holding a grudge is hurting you exponentially more than anyone else. Let it go.

20. Check your expectations

Presumption often leads to drama. Remember the old saying, "Expectations are premeditated resentments."

21. Engage in active play

Let your inner child come out and have some fun. Jump, move, play, run and pretend!

22. Stop criticizing yourself

The world is a hard enough place with more than enough critics. Your life is not served well by being one of them.

23. Focus your energy and attention on what you want

Thoughts, words, and actions all create energy. Energy attracts like energy. Put out what you want to get back.

24. Assign yourself "complaint free" days.

Make a conscious decision not to complain about anything for a whole day. It might be harder than you think and the awareness will stick with you.

25. Surround yourself with people you truly enjoy being in the company of

Personalities tend to be contagious, and not everyone's is worth catching. Be judicious in your choices.

26. Manage your money

Financial concerns rank top on the list of what causes people stress. Take the time each month to do a budget, calculate what you actually spend and sanity check that against the money you have coming in. Give money to charity. Nothing makes you more happy than making someone happy. This is ultimate delight you can experience by giving even 5 dollars to a needy, buying food for a pedestrian and so on.

27. Stop trying to control everything

Not only is your inner control freak sabotaging your sense of peace, it is also likely getting in the way of external relationships as well.

28. Practice affirmations

Repeat positive phrases that depict the life and qualities you want to attract. It may not come naturally to you, but it works.

29. Get up before sunrise

Personally witnessing the dawn brings a unique sense of awe and appreciation for life.