Friday, 8 April 2016

[HM:258396] Story: The Twist In Murder Story

This is an unbelievable twist of fate!!!
At the 1994 annual awards dinner given for Forensic Science, (AAFS) President Dr. Don Harper Mills astounded his audience with the legal complications of a bizarre death.

Here is the story:

On March 23, 1994 the medical examiner viewed the body of Ronald Opus and concluded that he died from a shotgun wound to the head.

Mr. Opus had jumped from the top of a 10-story building intending to commit suicide.
He left a note to the effect indicating his despondency.

As he fell past the ninth floor, his life was interrupted by a shotgun blast passing through a window, which killed him instantly.

Neither the shooter nor the deceased was aware that a safety net had been installed just below the eighth floor level to protect some building workers and that Ronald Opus would not have been able to complete his suicide the way he had planned.

The room on the ninth floor, where the shotgun blast emanated, was occupied by an elderly man and his wife.

They were arguing vigorously and he was threatening her with a shotgun!

The man was so upset that when he pulled the trigger, he completely missed his wife and the pellets went through the window, striking Mr. Opus.

When one intends to kill subject 'A' but kills subject 'B' in the attempt, one is guilty of the murder of subject 'B.'

When confronted with the murder charge, the old man and his wife were both adamant, and both said that they thought the shotgun was not loaded.

The old man said it was a long- standing habit to threaten his wife with the unloaded shotgun.

He had no intention to murder her.
Therefore, the killing of Mr. Opus appeared to be an accident; that is, assuming the gun had been accidentally loaded.

The continuing investigation turned up a witness who saw the old couple's son loading the shotgun about 6 weeks prior to the fatal accident.

It transpired that the old lady had cut off her son's financial support and the son, knowing the propensity of his father to use the shotgun threateningly, loaded the gun with the expectation that his father would shoot his mother.

Since the loader of the gun was aware of this, he was guilty of the murder even though he didn't actually pull the trigger.

The case now becomes one of murder on the part of the son for the death of Ronald Opus.

Now for the exquisite twist...

Further investigation revealed that the son was, in fact, Ronald Opus.

He had become increasingly despondent over the failure of his attempt to engineer his mother's murder.

This led him to jump off the 10 story building on March 23rd, only to be killed by a shotgun blast passing through the ninth story window.

The son, Ronald Opus, had actually murdered himself.

So the medical examiner closed the case as a suicide.

A true story from Associated Press.

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Thursday, 7 April 2016

[HM:258395] Stop Calling Me An Introvert. I Prefer "Power Thinker".

Jeffrey Towson

I'm getting sick of the term "introvert".

It sounds like someone with a problem. Like someone who is anti-social. In contrast, an "extrovert" sounds outgoing and engaging. Like the CEO or student body president.

Yes, some of us are pretty quiet in classrooms, dinner parties and corporate functions. Yes, we do find parties tiring after an hour or two. And yes, we usually let the phone ring through to voicemail (it's distracting).

But none of this is because we are anti-social (in fact, one-on-one we are pretty chatty). It's mostly because noise and crowds prevent us from doing what we do best, which is deep thinking.

Most introverts I know are basically full-time thinkers. They are doing it basically all the time. And we do deep thinking better than other people. That will sound arrogant to the extroverts, who will say "Well, we can do deep thinking too".

My answer is "No, you can't. Not like us."

The difference, as I see it is, is this:

Extroverts like to go to conferences, parties and corporate retreats - and they get charged up at them. In contrast, we get exhausted by noise and people. So naturally, extroverts are better at people-based activities, like leading big organizations.
But introverts get similarly charged up when we can find a quiet place to focus on a problem. Put an extrovert alone in an office for a week and he/she will get tired and lonely. In contrast, we will get charged up and focused. So naturally, we're better at it thinking-based activities, like research and writing.

So enough with the term "introvert". How did we get labeled by the negative side of our habits anyways? Extroverts aren't routinely called "annoying over-talkers".

From now on, I'm going with "power thinker". That's a better description.

"Extrovert" and "power thinker" are both good terms. They are both positive and aspirational - something one can strive for in life. The extroverts can aspire to become Jack Welch and Steve Jobs. We power thinkers can look up to Warren Buffett and Bill Gates. Certainly, nobody has every dreamed of becoming an introvert.

That's a bit of ranting and generalizing. Here are some examples from my own life:

I have a friend Amy who is an uber-extrovert. She is unbelievable. She probably meets 20-30 new people per day. In the office. At meetings. On the street. In Starbucks. She will go into a cocktail meet-and-greet and know everyone in about an hour. And not just hellos and handing business cards. She will get to know them and keep in touch. It's amazing to watch, like I am watching some other species than myself.
However, I notice I do similarly extreme stuff that she probably views as equally bizarre. For example, I will get working on a problem and then forget to eat. Not just a meal, but often for the whole day. And back in graduate school, I would frequently forget to eat for 2-3 days at a time (usually dropping from 140lb down to 120lbs during finals). But, far from being tired, I would become more and more charged up as the days went by. In fact, there was almost a euphoric feeling. Amy probably sees me as quite bizarre.
Another example. I have one particularly brainy friend who seems to balance being very analytical with also being a great executive at a large (and famous) internet company. She seems to be an ambivert, able to operate in both ways. I find myself both in awe of her ability to do this but also cringe at the thought of having to be in such a corporate environment myself. The term "team building exercise" literally makes me shudder.
But I think I have habits that would make even an ambivert cringe. For example, I find myself looking forward to taking 2 week trips for thinking and writing books. I find a beach house and then write 12-14 hours per day. And I will feel more and more energetic as the week goes on. I also find my thinking gets better and better. I suspect my ambivert friend would hate the idea of doing something like this.

Anyways, I'm going with "power thinker" from now on. It's positive and a bit cocky (kind of like extrovert).

It seems logical to me that some people are just more hard-wired for a life of contemplation. Looking back, all I've ever wanted to do with my life is sit in a bar and do math problems. But nobody (yet) has been willing to pay me to do this. If you know of someone, please send them my way.

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Monday, 4 April 2016

[HM:258394] Story: My Neighbor Is A Thief

Once an old man spread rumors that his neighbor was a thief. As a result, the young man was arrested. Days later the young man was proven innocent.

After being released he sued the old man for wrongly accusing him.
In the court, the old man told the Judge: "They were just comments, didn't harm anyone."

The judge told the old man: "Write all the things you said about him on a piece of paper. Cut them up and on the way home, throw the pieces of paper out. Tomorrow, come back to hear the sentence."

Next day, the judge told the old man: "Before the hearing starts, go out and gather all the pieces of paper that you threw out yesterday."

The old man said: "I can't do that! The wind spread them and I won't know where to find them."

The judge then replied: "The same way, simple comments may destroy the honor of a man to such an extent that one is not able to fix it. If you can't speak well of someone, rather don't say anything."

Giving comments about others have several disadvantages:

1- we become slaves of our words what we have uttered.

2- We lose our own respect in society/colleagues because of doing consistent character assassination.

3- Most of time, we are not sure whether we are right or wrong because being human our judgment can be wrong so we fall in the category of liars.

4- Negative trait of our personality becomes prominent which becomes our character in the long run

Junaid Tahir
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[HM:258393] A generic checklist for a project manager

1. My project has clear Business Objective and Quality Goals.

2. My project has an Estimate/ Budget, which is formally approved by a responsible authority/ project sponsor.

3.My team members (including vendor/partner teams where applicable) are aware of their roles. They are skilled and adequately trained.

4. Risks involved in my project are clearly documented. I discuss the Risk Matrix with my Project sponsor frequently. (At least once every 20 days).

5. My project progress is formally reviewed. I review every week and my sponsor reviews it every fortnight/month. I can show progress reports and minutes of the reviews.

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6. I analyze performance against Quality Goals.

7. My team is enthusiastic about working on the project.

8. I have set up clear issue resolution & escalation mechanisms in place - to address potential issues & conflicts within the team and with the client.

9. I am always in control of project scope. I have mapped my requirements documents with project proposal. I have implemented a formal Change management in my project.

10. My project scope can be verified from requirements document, and with help of bi-directional traceability document.

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11. I have taken internal audit, work product audit and configuration audit recently (not more than a month back) (applicable in case your company has audits in place)

12. The work break down structure/project plan that I currently have reflects the latest schedule, formally agreed upon by myself, my delivery head and my customer.

13. I ensure all work products are technically reviewed before they are put to use (for development/solution configuration) or passed on to customer

14. The project I manage currently reports less than 5% variance on schedule, effort, cost /budget variance and defects. (Or any other target your company may prescribe)

15. I always ensure there is sufficient knowledge transfer every time my team set up changes.

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16. All deliverables that require internal or client approvals have such approvals in place. Such deliverables are used downstream post approval.

Junaid Tahir
www.DailyTenMinutes.com

Saturday, 2 April 2016

[HM:258392] 8 ways to banish boredom from your day

Are you bored? 8 ways to banish boredom from your day.

We've all been there, the daily grind, the same ol' same ol' of another day with young kids or the mountain of laundry which you swore you folded just yesterday (and you probably did!). The life of a mum can be rewarding, challenging but it can also be really, really boring. Whether you are at home with the kids fulltime or working, the daily care of children involves two things; routine and repetition. Under these circumstances it is easy for boredom to set in. And boredom make us unmotivated, unproductive and can even lead to depression if left unchecked.

Boredom is characterised by a general lack of interest and feeling which can make us feel disconnected from people. It is an unpleasant emotion that can leave us feeling restless, numb and even aggressive. When we are bored we can often seek to escape the unpleasant feeling by occupying ourselves with food, TV, surfing the internet, drugs and alcohol or sex. This kind of behaviour can be self-destructive and most definitely unproductive.

How to banish boredom

In order to deal with feelings of boredom you first need to recognise them. One of the ways to do this is to write down your boredom symptoms. For me it is surfing the net and overeating. When I find myself doing either of these things I am usually trying to outrun the uncomfortable feeling of boredom. When you recognise the symptoms of boredom, accept the feelings and just sit with it for a few minutes.

Once you know you are dealing with boredom you are in a position to do something about it. Try these tips:

Connect with people, call a friend, go chat to your local shopkeeper, even people-watching at your local café will help you feel connected again.
Get up and get moving. If you are boredom-watching TV or surfing the net, get up and do some laundry, even a quick walk around the living room will break the mindless cycle of boredom.
If boredom at work is a problem for you, try setting smaller goals which you can achieve with greater frequency which will help to keep you focused and motivated.
Create a "boredom list", a list of fun things you enjoy doing and post it around the house wherever you tend to experience boredom symptoms most (for me that's the computer and the fridge!). When you recognise boredom setting in, you won't need to search too hard for inspiration.
Get out of your routine. Routines can be very useful but they can also lead to boredom. Change things up a little. Even something as simple as brushing your teeth with your non-dominant hand can be enough to wake you up.
Practice mindfulness and be present and focused on the here and now. When you are watching TV focus on all the sounds you hear or the clothes each character is wearing, focus on the sensations in your body.
Be careful of the company you keep. Boredom is contagious so make sure to hang with an active crowd.
Coach yourself! Ask some coaching questions when you notice boredom – what would make this interesting for me? Do I need to challenge myself to see how quickly I can fold the washing? Can I pack my groceries faster than the cashier can scan them? Can I bang out a blog post in under an hour (I may or may not be drawing from personal experience!).

How do you know when you are bored? What strategies do you find helpful? Let me know in the comments below.

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Re: [HM:258391] Story: Two Brothers - Different Future

Nice One

Thanks

On Fri, Apr 1, 2016 at 1:02 PM, Junaid Tahir <mjunaidtahir@gmail.com> wrote:

This is a story of two brothers. One was a drug addict and a drunkard who frequently beat up his family. The other one was a very successful businessman who was respected in society and had a wonderful family. Some people wanted to find out why two brothers from the same parents, brought up in the same environment, could be so different.

The first one was asked, "How come you do what you do? You are a drug addict, a drunk, and you beat your family. What motivates you?" He said, "My father." They asked, "What about your father?" The reply was, "My father was a drug addict, a drunk and he beat his family. What do you expect me to be? That is what I am."

They went to the brother who was doing everything right and asked him the same question. "How come you are doing everything right ? What is your source of motivation?" And guess what he said? "My father. When I was a little boy, I used to see my dad drunk and doing all the wrong things. I made up my mind, that is not what I wanted to be."

Both were deriving their strength and motivation from the same source, but one was using it negatively and the other positively....

Life keeps on teaching us from different situations however it is up to us what we want to learn. The rule is simple, "Good mind, good find !"

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Friday, 1 April 2016

[HM:258390] Story: Two Brothers - Different Future

This is a story of two brothers. One was a drug addict and a drunkard who frequently beat up his family. The other one was a very successful businessman who was respected in society and had a wonderful family. Some people wanted to find out why two brothers from the same parents, brought up in the same environment, could be so different.

The first one was asked, "How come you do what you do? You are a drug addict, a drunk, and you beat your family. What motivates you?" He said, "My father." They asked, "What about your father?" The reply was, "My father was a drug addict, a drunk and he beat his family. What do you expect me to be? That is what I am."

They went to the brother who was doing everything right and asked him the same question. "How come you are doing everything right ? What is your source of motivation?" And guess what he said? "My father. When I was a little boy, I used to see my dad drunk and doing all the wrong things. I made up my mind, that is not what I wanted to be."

Both were deriving their strength and motivation from the same source, but one was using it negatively and the other positively....

Life keeps on teaching us from different situations however it is up to us what we want to learn. The rule is simple, "Good mind, good find !"

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