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Sunday, 10 June 2012

[HM:253687] Giving Positive Feedback To Your Child

By Anonymous from USA.

If done correctly, positive feedback motivates, nurtures independence, boost self-esteem and helps set reasonable expectations for your child.

That's why it's important to praise children of all ages. However, the way to offer praise should differ depending on the child's age. While it's OK to high-five your 2-year-old when she puts her socks on for the first time, you don't want to cheer on your 9-year-old for dressing himself.

For toddlers, positive feedback should take the form of praise for good behavior and new accomplishments. As they grow older, praise the efforts and progress they make toward Goals.

No matter what your child's age, offer positive feedback with these tips.

· Be sincere. Even young children know when you are not being genuine. Instead of telling your 5-year-old, "You are the best baseball player ever!" say, "Great catch!"

· Be specific. Instead of saying, "You were good today," single out their accomplishments. Use phrases like, "Good job cleaning your room without being asked."

· Praise kindness as well as accomplishments. Thank children for sharing or for comforting a hurt friend.

· Pass the word. Let children hear you talking to others about their accomplishments.

· Encourage the effort. Offer positive feedback for trying, even when your child fails. When your 12-year-old practices a new skateboard trick, say, "You're almost there! I can tell you've been practicing!" Sometimes a "Yeah!" or a high-five is all that's needed.

· Counter negativity. When children become discouraged, remind them of their strengths and accomplishments.

Actions speak louder than words, so take the time to talk and play with your children. Use your time together to reinforce their strengths and encourage areas of improvement.

-- Mayo Clinic --

M Junaid Tahir

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